u/IntentionElegant9881

I’m looking for some help. My brother is autistic and has worked at this place of employment happily for a number of years and had been praised as an exceptional employee always moving up the company.

Recently they employed someone below him, and the new employee seems to have an issue with my brother. He has made several nasty comments about my brothers weight, autistic tendencies and general nastiness and the company have done everything they can to bury and ignore the problem. There is even proof of this employee saying. Racial slurs in regards to other employees and even clients yet nothing is being done. Not even a warning to the employee.

The employee has now told mutuals that my brother is off work due to poor mental health. This is true. The bullying has caused my brother become suicidal and unable to attend work.

He complained to his work that this discussion fo his time off is a breach of his privacy and GDPR. His work have said because it was discussed outside of the workplace it does not count as such, the person who received these comments is happy to state that this was indeed said for the case of an investigation but they won’t even look into it.

Baisicly I think they are hoping my brother will leave in favour of not taking responsibility for the new employees behavior.

Can anyone advise on the next steps please?

So a few years ago I was made homeless with my two children. I was married for 10 years. The latter 4 were full of financial abuse and other things. I felt completely trapped. Eventually he had an affair and kicked me and our kids out for his new gf. His parents owned our house so there was nothing I could do. The children and I ended up being passed around homeless shelters for 2 years whilst I gained work experience, cleared the debt he left me in and found somewhere to live.

I have a much better life now. My own beautiful house, a new partner a baby and a small job helping others in similar situations.

One thing I have noticed is my story is not unique. I met and mentored many, mainly woman who have been in similar situations.

One of the things I have never understood is what kind of woman willingly supports a man who does this to his own children? The woman who my ex had an affair with was also a friend of mine and I could never understand how she could comfortably live in our family home knowing he cut me and the kids off and left us with nothing. Not even food and shelter.

I think asking this question might help with my healing on days my mind goes back to those days.

It’s funny how you never seem to hear from these woman, perhaps no one wants to own up? Perhaps they are abused themselves and don’t see it yet? I don’t know.

Have you ever been the woman who tried to rebuild her life on the wreckage of another?