After Divorce, next steps
I just found out my wife of 22 years (been together since 11th grade) is having her 2nd affair in 5 years. She also filed for divorce. I’ve been completely broken and I’m still pretty shaken up about it since finding out a month ago today.
Ive learned that I cannot control her and I can only control myself. I am working on myself now. I’m working out, starting the day out with worship music and reading Gods word, and listening to podcasts on relationships and healing (taking what I hear with a grain of salt as it is not faith based).
I know God does not make mistakes and I still feel like my wife/future ex is supposed to be who I’m with. Obviously that’s not an option now, but I know to never say never when it comes to God. We were together for five years before getting married. We went to church 3 times a week, prayed together, grew in faith together, so I felt like God ordained and blessed our marriage. It’s not like we were nonbelievers or rushed into this. I also know we have free will, so if my wife is choosing her own path right now, what does that mean in terms of God’s will for our relationship going forward? Is this one of those things where God put us together but he is letting us choose our own path and destruction? If God’s plan always works out in the end, does that mean that we should end up together possibly years down the road?
As much as God hates divorce, and with sexual sin the only sin God said to turn and run from specifically, how does that play into His perfect plan for our lives?
Thank you