Should Polygamy be legalized? It was in the Old testament.
If it became legal, would you do it?
I met a guy who visited our church at the time a few years ago who was from some fringe group who brought his 2 wives
I sure wouldn't do it
They are not bf/gf. They've just been messing around. Now she's one month with child, and her parents may kick her out. I've been asking everyone religious or not for advice:
My first instinct is to move her into my home. They may not want a relationship, but I have extra rooms. It won't cost me a dime for her and the child to stay here. He says he wants to step up as a Father, but he doesn't want her as a partner. I'm still going to provide her and the child with a home. My wife is offering unlimited free babysitting.
Is that what you would do?
Us talking with her parents is a separate issue that may or may not happen.
I have recently met this wonderful girl who is literally the same person as me. We like all the same things, and think the same things and fit together like bread and butter. However...she is an atheist. Now this personally doesnt bother me, as I love discussing with people from other viewpoints. Most of my friends are atheist or agnostic as well due to the field im in.
I know many people who are successful Christians married to atheists (My grandfather for example, is a diehard christian, while my grandmother is an atheist). But I just want to make sure its not a sin. I dont feel any conviction, and instead almost feel a "go ahead" in my gut. But that may very well be my own hopes. Can anyone answer this?
Did Christ's death actually save the world, or did it merely make salvation possible for the world?
If you say it merely made salvation possible, can you show me the verse that says Christ's death only made salvation possible?
I’ve heard people say this about Hindu, paganism, Wicca, scientology, and other religions that have multiple gods. Strangely it seems that Shinto, Shikism, Jainism (kinda makes scene because they don’t have any gods), Buddhism, and especially Taoism (I’ve even seen Taoism and Buddhism get quite a bit of praise) seem to not get these accusations, what makes them different.
(sorry for bad English)
I was pondering about this for quite a while but Christians, Muslims, and Jews worship the same God; the God of Abrahim. Then why do you people are always in a scruffle with each other foe a lot of the time in history and even today. Please be kind as I don't know about religion much and please excuse my English.
Thank you.
Many Christians say God does not pick a spouse for us and that we have to choose for ourselves. But honestly, this makes me nervous because I know I can make mistakes. I could choose the wrong person and potentially ruin my life. I always believed that God would pick my spouse for me, almost like He would handpick the person and the Holy Spirit would let me know. I know that may sound easier, but I thought that would give me more peace and certainty.
So what is the actual biblical reality? Does God really not pick a spouse for us? If God does guide us toward someone, how can we know that it is actually His guidance and not just what we want? I had this belief until now, and I am trying to understand whether I was wrong. what if i pick the wrong one i dont trust myself
Hello everyone,
I’m a 26F who recently gave their life to Christ about a year ago and am living with an abusive parent. Towards the beginning of the year I believe I heard the Lord tell me to “move”, and honestly since then I haven’t. At first when I heard it, I was excited. But when I told my abusive parent, they began putting fear in my heart/mind and began mocking me and Jesus/God. So 10 months later (today) after my church service, I was convicted because of disobedience.
What should I do?
Some of you might know me from the Christian marriage sub, where I've posted more times than I'd like to admit (thank you to anyone who's been there, some of those comments got me through some really long, dark nights). I've also posted here quite a bite whenever I see someone asking about an abusive or addicted boyfriend or fiance (i'm the one usually waving the large, red flag and screaming into a megaphone) I'm posting here because I think this conversation needs to happen before the wedding, not after.
My situation has had me deep in Scripture, not looking to hate on marriage (I love love and I love marriage, which is why this hurts so much), but trying to understand how we as the church ended up where we are when it comes to marriages with abuse, addiction, and serious sin that isn't being repented of. And I've realized a lot of it starts way earlier than marriage. It starts with what we absorb while we're single.
When I was dating, shared faith was basically my main filter. If he loved Jesus and went to church, that was solid. I wish someone had told me that dating is for data, not just for getting to the altar.
Here's the theology I think a lot of us soak up without realizing it:
If you believe those things going into marriage, it changes how you date. You overlook stuff. You tell yourself love and prayer will fix it later. You feel like noticing red flags is unspiritual.
But the same chapter of 1 Peter literally says Christ "suffered once for sins" (3:18). Hebrews 10 says His sacrifice was once for all. Jesus puts rebuke BEFORE forgiveness and repentance before restoration (Luke 17:3). God calls himself slow to anger and then in the very next breath says he does not leave the guilty unpunished (Exodus 34:6-7). And Ephesians 5, the passage everyone uses to keep wives in there place, is the one that tells the husband to lay down his life.
Marriage is sacred because it points to Christ and the church. If a marriage needs one spouse to be sacrificed to keep it standing, its stopped pointing to Christ.
And I'm not anti-restoration at all. My parents have been counseling couples back together for like 20+ years and I've seen it happen. But every single one of those stories has the same thing in common: somebody repented. Restoration without repentance isn't really restoration.
So I'm curious what you all think:
I wrote a much longer version (Jephthah's daughter, Hosea, what I'd want pastors to hear) here if anyone wants it: https://notesfromthemend.substack.com/p/a-false-theology-for-the-abused
Most (older) Christian folks say that we're not supposed to watch horror movies because you open up doors. But... I like watching horror movies because I like to get scared in a safe manner (knowing that I'm safe in the safety of my home) while I see the perils a person (fictitiously) goes through in a movie or series.
It's so boring only watching action, comedies and dramas (and all of those movies often contain things that the bible wouldn't condone). So why are horror movies singled out like that?
My dad used to have seances and play with the Quija board and he started seeing ghosts and had paranormal experiences and those things (according to him) followed him to our current home. He died years ago but from time to time we'll still get paranormal happenings and my mom says it's because of the "things that we watch" but I think the more likely reasoning is the paranormal beings that followed my dad home.
Not being able to watch horror movies for the rest of my life would suck, and I don't even like the extreme type. I like pretty tame ones (no Terrifier for me).
It would be awesome if a pastor could chime in...
I’m a mom of three teenage boys, and I would really appreciate some advice from parents who have been through this stage.
I homeschooled my boys until the end of middle school. Growing up, we limited screens a lot. We did things together—board games, museums, nature, outdoor activities, playing in the backyard, family outings, etc.
Now, my oldest is 18 and a senior in public high school, my second is 16 and a sophomore in public high school, and my youngest is 13 (still homeschooled ) . My youngest really isn’t an issue yet, but I am struggling so much with my older two and their phones/screens.
They are great kids. They are excellent students and get great grades. They play sports, stay out of trouble, and don’t go out doing crazy things. From the outside, they are the kind of teenagers people compliment me on, and I am very thankful for them.
But at home, I feel like I am constantly fighting a battle with their phones.
Whenever they aren’t at school, playing sports, or doing something they have to do, all they seem to want is their phones. Homework gets left until the last minute. I can ask five times for a simple chore to get done because they are distracted by their phones.
I find myself constantly saying, “Get off your phone,” “Did you do your homework?” “Please put your phone down,” “I already asked you to do this.” It has gotten to the point where they tell me that all I do is complain about their phones—and honestly, sometimes it feels that way to me too.
We talk about it almost every day, which obviously isn’t working.
I also have a strong personality, so when I get frustrated, I tend to raise my voice. I know that isn’t helping either. But seeing them sitting on their phones for hours genuinely drives me crazy.
My husband is an excellent father, but he is much more introverted and laid-back about this than I am, so most of the phone monitoring and arguing ends up falling on me.
I hate how much phones have taken over teenage life. At the same time, I understand that with high school, friends, sports teams, school communication, etc., there really isn’t a way to completely go back to life without phones.
What I miss most is our family connection. We used to play board games, go outside, do things together, and just enjoy being around each other. Now it feels like nothing can compete with a phone for very long.
For parents who have successfully navigated this stage with older teenagers: How do you set healthy limits without constantly fighting about it?
I don’t want the last few years I have with them at home to be spent with me nagging them about their phones. I want boundaries, responsibility, and family connection—but I also want peace in our home.
My boys tell me I am always bringing conflict to the house. They want me to let them alone. I am so , so tired of nagging and asking and screaming every and each day.
An example: weekdays they get home from school straight to their bedroom to scroll cellphone for hours. Then they check cell phones during dinner. Homework is left for 10pm.
They say it is because they are tired from school.
Weekends it is sofa and phones for hours. If I complain, they go to their bedrooms. If we go somewhere for a hiking, in the car they just stay on their phones. When I pick them up from practices, they are scrolling on their phones because they say they are tired from practice. Any kind of conversation I try to have, all they do is say I don’t want to talk, I am tired.
My husband hates conflict and confrontation
so he does not get involved. I am so tired to the point t of just wishing they go to school and find a job so they spend all day busy instead of cell phones.
Thank you!
Lately, because of Halloween and "spooky month," I've gotten into watching a Youtube channel called Sam and Colby where they go to abandoned or haunted places and do paranormal investigations. I like watching these because they give you the chills that a horror movie would without all the blood and gore.
I know it's fake and I don't believe in ghosts, it doesn't make sense that an average human would come back as a spirit to "haunt" something. Why would some random guy from the 1950s come back from the dead to close doors and make floorboards creak? It's illogical. However, I do believe in demons/demonic spirits and it worries me when I'm watching the videos that what they're coming in contact with isn't the creepy ghost woman who died there, but a demonic entity playing a part.
I always feel almost physically and mentally sick after watching these, but I don't know if it's because it's a scary channel or if it's a spiritual issue, and it makes it hard to sleep. I'm terrified.
Is it just me being paranoid and/or religious psychosis and should I stop watching these things?