u/InteractionOld5072

I’m struggling to make sense of something.

Before the election, I believed that supporters of TVK were present in large numbers, but I didn’t think that would translate into actual votes. The results proved me wrong, and I had to accept that I was living in a bubble.

But now, just a couple of days later, I see a shift in the conversation. Everyone seems to be talking except TVK supporters. It almost feels like people have suddenly come to their senses and are collectively agreeing that things have gone wrong.

My ex and I were together for two years, and he called me today out of the blue after three months of no contact. I was asleep and didn’t recognize the number, so I picked it up. He’s the one who dumped me. The last time we spoke, I had sent him a long message about how badly he treated me, and then I blocked him and went completely silent.

For context, he had me blocked on Instagram for almost a year while we were still in a relationship, which I know sounds messed up. Recently, he unblocked me and noticed that I was following one of his friends. The friend had added me first, and I simply followed back. He called me just to ask me to unfollow him because it was “disturbing” him.

At first, I said no because it didn’t feel fair or reasonable. But he got angry and started saying hurtful things. He told me I hadn’t moved on, asked why I had so much spite, and said he was in a better place now. He even told me to go rant to someone else or see a therapist, which really hurt because I am actually in therapy trying to heal from everything.

After the call, I completely broke down. I hadn’t cried like that in weeks. I’ve been doing better lately. I’ve been eating properly, sleeping well, and not waking up with anxiety every day. I stuck to no contact and was genuinely starting to feel like myself again. But this one call made it feel like all the pain came rushing back.

I ended up unfollowing his friend because I don’t want anything that connects me to him anymore. But I don’t understand why he would reach out after months just to control something so small. I don’t understand why he felt the need to tell me how great his life is now, or why he would disturb my peace when I was finally getting better.

I hate that I feel like I lost my power again. Has anyone else experienced something like this? How do you stop it from setting you back?