WIBTA if I left my bf for not cleaning?
Okay so a little background I (25F) have been with my bf (26M) for two years in that time we’ve been through a lot including 2 kids, 2 job lay offs and 2 moves when we got together we both were living with our ex’s (separated) and then when I got pregnant he moved in his sisters and I moved to my dads, he would on and off stay the night at my dads with me and help out when he could with cleaning so I always thought the mess came from me not doing my part because I was having a rough pregnancy(big baby, small me lol) I could only stand for 10-15 minutes at a time so dishes and dinner became near impossible well we Finally were able to get into our own place together right before our baby was born and everything was fine for a while then I had our baby there were a few complications he had shoulder dystocia and recovery was hard I wasn’t even able to make it up the stairs to the bathroom unassisted i slept on our living room couch cause I couldn’t make it to our bedroom and kitchen for night feedings I had severe pelvic pain for a month and a half after because the doctor had to shove her entire hand inside to pull him out well during this time the house went completely chaotic laundry piled up dishes stacked high trash never got taken out and once again I chalked it up to
Me not being able to do my part postpartum after a couple of months I was finally feeling like myself again and started to clean up the house and try and get it back in order but in doing so I started to realize that my boyfriend doesn’t pick up anything he doesn’t take the trash out. He doesn’t do laundry unless it’s his, he doesn’t do dishes unless he needs them. I’ve tried communicating to him that I can’t stay living in a mess like this. It puts me in a bad funk, but it seems to just keep falling on deaf ears when my son was six months old we found out I was pregnant again and I told him that I wanted to get the house back in order before we had our second baby. That way I wasn’t stressed during postpartum and if recovering was hard this time again things wouldn’t get worse. He agreed but here we are two months before I’m supposed to give birth and everything is still the same nothing has changed. I’m trying so hard to get the house cleaned and in seven months it looks the same as it did before I work third shift four days a week 10 hour days so I usually am only able to clean up on weekends and every weekend I come back to the same messes that I cleaned up the weekend before or worse I love him and besides this, we have no other issues but I truly do feel like this is a dealbreaker for me because I can’t even make breakfast for my son without crying and having a breakdown because of how messy it is i’m just at a complete loss because I feel like we’re fighting over the same messes every weekend and I’ve even tried making him lists that never get done. I made him a chore chart that never gets done. The only time he does anything is when I’m in his ear complaining and nagging him. He always promises to do better but how long am I supposed to wait before he actually does it? I feel more like a manager than a partner, so would I be the asshole if I left my boyfriend because he doesn’t clean?