I (25F) have been with my boyfriend (25M) for a little over a year, and I need to know if I’m overreacting about his mom.
My boyfriend is genuinely great to me, so this isn’t really about him as a partner. But every time I’m around his mom I leave feeling this weird pit in my stomach and I can’t tell if I’m being dramatic or if something is actually off.
She’s not mean to me at all, which almost makes it harder to explain. It’s more the dynamic between her and my boyfriend that makes me uncomfortable. She seems very emotionally attached to him in a way that feels excessive, and I constantly feel like when me and him are interacting she inserts herself or redirects his attention.
For context, he still lives at home and she still does a lot for him like making his breakfast/lunch every day, which maybe is normal to some people, but combined with everything else it gives me this vibe that she still sees him as her little boy in a very intense way.
One thing that especially rubbed me the wrong way was my boyfriend did something sweet for me the other night and his mom made a comment calling him “my man” in this joking/possessive way, and it genuinely made me feel weird.
There are also a lot of little jokes/comments that make me feel like she still sees him as a child rather than an adult man in a relationship.
Nothing is outright horrible, but it’s enough little things that I always leave feeling uneasy and kind of pushed to the side. My boyfriend seems to think everything is normal, which makes me question if I’m just reading too much into it.
Am I overreacting or does this sound off?
TL;DR:
My boyfriend is great to me, but his mom’s very emotionally attached dynamic with him keeps making me feel uneasy and I’m starting to question if I’m overreacting or if something is genuinely off.