Why does my 3 month old sleep longer for my husband but wake every hour for me?
My 3 month old sleeps fine for my husband but wakes every hour for me 😭. He is a healthy thriving boy with no conditions, however, he is not a big eater and prefers small meals during the day (60-120 mil per feed)
Looking for advice or similar experiences because I’m starting to lose my mind overnight.
Our current setup:
- My husband takes the first shift from about 8pm–1am so I can get a solid chunk of sleep.
- During his shift, baby gets pumped breastmilk from a bottle and usually sleeps a pretty decent 3-hour stretch.
- Then I take over around 1am or 2am.
The problem is once I take over, baby starts waking up EVERY hour — like 2am, 3am, 4am, 5am. Sometimes he actually eats, but other times he just wants to be held or soothed back to sleep.
I breastfeed him and then usually put him next to me in bed following safe sleep guidelines because I’m exhausted and it’s easier to settle him quickly. But now I’m wondering:
- Is he waking more because he smells me / knows breastfeeding is available?
- Is this more of a comfort thing than hunger?
- Am I accidentally reinforcing the hourly wakeups?
- Should I start putting him back in the crib after feeds instead of keeping him beside me?
- Why does he sleep longer for my husband than for me, is because he is not full from breastfeeding?!
Would love to hear if anyone else experienced this around 3 months and what helped. Thank you so much ahead! This channel has been helping me so much throughout the journey.