r/sleeptraining

I would love some help/advice/encouragement/reassurance regarding my 10 week old 😭 I am so sleep deprived.

The longest stretch at night we’ve ever had was 3 hours and 1 minute! In the daytime he will have contact naps lasting 1-2 hours or sleep in his Moses basket.

BUT, our sweet baby boy is awake every 2 hours overnight for milk. He drinks both formula and pumped breast milk (my supply is crap hence topping up with formula). He will not settle any other way in the night, the boy wants milk!

He’s a grazer, he drinks 60-80ml of milk per feed (VERY occasionally 100-120ml) lots throughout the day. Over a 24 period he has the recommended daily amount of milk, just in lots of smaller feeds.

At night we put him down in a dark room, with white noise, in a next-to-me bassinet.

What am I doing wrong? Why does he like to eat so little each feed?! How do I get longer sleep stretches?

My 4 month old has been a good sleeper since about 2.5-3 months. He goes down about 8:00/8:30pm and sleeps until about 5:30/6:00am. Rare to no MOTN wakes. Our routine is fairly lax. I’m pretty lax about wake windows. He’s awake when he wants to be and sleeps when he wants to. I thought his wake windows would end up naturally increasing to around 75-90min. But they are pretty much 60 minutes on the dot. Pushing him past that makes him overtired and he’s kind of a bear to get settled for a nap at that point. Everything I see says at this point they’ll only need about 3-4 naps a day. But homeboy is napping at least 5 times a day. Some are short 30-40 minute naps. Maybe a 1.5 hour nap midday. But is this a bad thing? I’m kinda one of those “if it’s not broke don’t fix it” kinda people. This is my first kid, though. Do I need to push those windows? He gets his calories and playtime in. He’s on his milestone marks so far. He’s a pretty happy little dude for the most part.

My 3 month old is only napping for 30 minutes at a time unless he’s being held. Even then he sometimes wakes up at the 30 minute mark. I’ve tried all the suggested “fixes” but nothing has worked so far. Is this normal?

First ever post on reddit! Desperation!

Baby is about 6.5 months old. Terrible at sleep from the beginning, only a couple of "good" nights (one wake up). Sleep trained (modified ferber) at 4.5 months just for bedtime because bedtime was taking hours to transfer. He did well with that, but then we were traveling, he got two colds, vaccines, and started daycare.

We never fully committed to handling middle of the night wake ups because it was never predictable. Sometimes 10pm, sometimes 1am, 4am... AND when we tried to commit, he outlasted us every time, screaming for 2+ hours until we eventually gave in and he was SO dysregulated it would still take 30 minutes to help him back to sleep.

Daycare naps are all over the place. He is going towards 2 naps but it's not working quite yet. Sometimes rejecting 3rd nap leading to 6pm bedtime. On a good day, WW are 2.5/3/3 or 3/2.5/3. If 3 naps, 2.5/3/2.5/2.5 I offer him a 15-20 minute cat nap and the last WW is more like 2hr 40 min because of the short nap. I can't really control it to a T though which is hard.

DWT we are fine with 6am if he would sleep! Total daytime sleep typically 2.5 hours, haven't gotten more than that in a bit. Naps are between 40 min to 1.5 hours, with that 3rd nap 15-20 min if needed.

Example from today: wake 615am. nap 1 845-920. nap 2 1230-150. rejected nap 3. asleep 628 (screamed extra loud for 25 minutes).

Do we just need to buckle up and stick to the ferber plan for all night wakes? He is SO stubborn. I'm happy to keep 1 night feed, given daycare ounces are also not always great.

My 14 month old has always been a 6:30-7:00 riser but the last week has been waking anywhere from 4:30-5:30 am with no chances of going back to sleep. I'll leave her but she will escalate and get really upset after 15 minutes.

Her schedule is roughly 3.5/4.5/4.75
First nap is always around 9:30 and is capped at 30 minutes and 2nd nap is 1 hour
I've tried an earlier bedtime and a later bedtime, not sure if this is a scheduling issue or something else????
If needing to go to one nap is what it could be, how do I do that when the early mornings are happening?