r/sleeptraining

She used to sleep through the night. This has been almost consistently since we started solids (which we have done incredibly slowly). We have started a probiotic and gas drops. Mom and dad both work. As mommy, I do have the luxury of working from home. Nanny here with me in the mornings, then we go to grandma’s house in the afternoon. I legitimately get nighttime scaries now. I already don’t sleep in my own bedroom anymore, I sleep in the living room to be close to her nursery if she needs me.

Do not tell me to tough it out “that’s just how it is.” And to not tell me to cosleep. I have way too much anxiety for that.

I pump most of the time and my supply has dipped since my period returned and she gets more formula now. I am getting very little sleep. Dad needs more sleep right now, dealing with health issues and so I’m managing all of that, too. I cook most meals, I deal with bath time. The few times we do solids it takes so much time for setup and cleanup and she hates the chair

She only naps on people, and she used to sleep through the night so easily in her crib. She does not go down any earlier than 9pm, usually not really out till 10.

I’m losing my mind. I need help from the people who have overcome this situation. I do not want any “well you need to just suck it up and do it” advice, I do not want any “you need to be doing this perfect routine that works perfect with my baby.” I need to hear from people who have gotten out of this cycle to baby consistently sleeping and napping.

I know it’s developmentally appropriate for the baby to wake time to time, but I cannot function on little 2 hour bursts of sleep. I didn’t have to do it until now since like the first 6 weeks (long before my maternity leave ended), so it’s very jarring to suffer through now.

Hi fellow parents!

Our daughter is 3 months old and is generally a great sleeper. She goes down at 7pm and wakes up once for a solid feed around 1am, which we’re totally fine with.
The issue is the 5am wake-up. She wakes up, we give her a bottle, but she only takes 1–2oz before passing back out while eating. Then she’s fully awake and ready to start the day at 7am.
It feels like she’s just comfort-nursing or snacking out of habit rather than hunger at 5am, but she’s pretty insistent! Has anyone dealt with this "snack-to-breakfast" bridge? Any tips or tricks to help her snooze (or at least wait) until her actual 7am breakfast bottle?

Thanks in advance!

Since 3.5 weeks, my baby started refusing to sleep more than 15 minutes in crib and bassinet. Prior to that, he’d sleep 2-4 hour stretches alone, I know he started to “wake up” to the world so things shifted for him.

Now he is 8 weeks and this still continues. We start off at night time in the crib and that lasts for about max 45 minutes. He’ll accept a beside soothe and then 15-20 min later he’s up and crying. I only want to do this some many times to preserve sleep for him.

The good news is, he will sleep 5-6 hours at night but it has to be on me. I am physically and mentally exhausted. I am so grateful he can sleep but I’m dying for some sleep on my own in a bed. I could handle daytime contact naps anytime but the refusal for more that 45 min of sleep in the crib is killing me. It’s only me for overnight so sleeping in shifts is not an option. I practice crib naps during the day too, same situation.

I guess I’m looking for hope or advice? I don’t know anymore I’m just too tired. There is white noise, he’s swaddles, he had gas drops (gas has been a big issue for disrupted nighttime sleep). I nurse him and he’s gained weight and developing well. He will transfer fine and then wake up after first sleep cycle. I know I can’t rush anything biologically…

I’m intimidated because my firstborn took to the bassinet/crib right away. We contact napped on a few during the day but this is something different. Trust me, I am soaking it in this time around. But I need an opportunity to take care of myself too.

Thank you!

My nearly one year old still wakes almost every sleep cycle. It’s 3/4 wakes a night, every 1.5 hours or so. Sometimes it’s 2 wakes, sometimes once.

Her night sleep is wildly inconsistent. I have tried everything. Anything that looks like a pattern is quickly disproved. This girl humbles us. I have no idea what is causing all the wakes. Shes never been a gifted sleeper, waking anywhere from 6-8 times a night for many months until a couple months ago when it’s gotten to 3-4. Tonight we’re up to 5 wakes and shes having such a hard time settling lately. Regressions don’t really mean much, because her sleep has always sucked.

Schedule below. Is the idea to play w it h sleep pressure? Because she’s getting the “right” amount of day sleep, going down easy for naps and bedtime, so I’m so confused what on earth we could be doing.

Open to any and all suggestions. Thank you fam!!

Wake - 7:30am
Nap 1 - 11-1
Nap 2 - 4-5
Bedtime - 8:30 or 9

All these times can shift by about 30 minutes just depending on when she wakes up. In general, wake windows are 3/3/4. First nap is like 1.-2 hours and second nap is like 30 mins-1.5 hours.

Edit: forgot to mention that each night wake requires 20-30 mins of rocking and sometimes bottles to help her back down

Edit 2: if it makes a difference Shes not quite one yet, about 11mo bc she was three weeks early.

My baby is 5.5 months old & I really need to transition him to his crib at night so I can sleep better. He generally goes to bed at 7 & wakes at a little after 6. Wake windows are 3/3/4 though last window can be longer if afternoon nap is shorter. I cap total naptime to 3 hours but he usually averages 2.5. He’s been napping in his crib during the daytime since about 3.5 months. He sleeps in a pack n play in our room at night & still wakes 1-2 times a night to feed.

He isn’t sleep trained & I am afraid we have a feed to sleep association. I have just laid him down when he’s wide awake after his last bottle & he puts himself to sleep in 10 min. Problem is more often than not he’ll fall asleep during the bottle.

Can I sleep train & make the crib transition at the same time? I’m thinking about doing Ferber. I have kind of done the chair method when he’s still awake after his last bottle (I lay him down then I lay down in bed or get ready for bed in our bathroom).

I know I need to get rid of the feed to sleep & wean night feeds. I’ve tried to schedule the last bottle earlier in our routine & have my husband do it while I get everything ready for bed but he ends up crying & I finish the bottle when I take him to bed.

Sorry for the long post but big question is would you recommend crib transition & sleep training plus weaning night feeds at the same time or take a stepwise approach?

I’ve tried multiple bedtimes between 7:30-9:00. None of them seem to be helping. Her naps vary but approximately 9-10 & 2-3 she takes her naps.

Since last week we've found our toddler is going to bed a lot later and we can't seem to figure out what's going on.

She usually goes to sleep between 7pm to 7:30pm with no issue. The usual routine will be, teeth brushed, milk bottle followed by a few stories, cuddle and then she'll point to her bed and say "bed bed" so we put her into her cot. She isn't usually asleep at this point and will chat to herself and roll around and cuddle her toy and then falls asleep, she doesn't cry or anything and if she did and she couldn't settle herself we go in and help her.

Now however it's taking her so much longer to go down and I don't know if this is her telling us that her bedtime routine needs to start later or if this might be sleep regression. I don't want to have her miss out on sleep if this is some sort of rebellion she's decided to have about bedtime.

I'm wondering if we might need to do more with her routine to help her relax and settle more so she becomes more tired and less likely to find falling to sleep difficult.

Any thoughts and advice would be greatly appreciated.

My LO is 6 months in 2 weeeks and we have made the difficult decision after a bad night that we will sleep train. 10 days time. I feel terrible about it as I have a zvery spirited persistent girl who cries a lot and wakes up several times a night. I am exhausted. Dizzy in the mornings, crying a lot. I have not recovered from the early days where I had post pasfum anxiety and would stay up all night and watch her. Ive barely slept in 6 months and on the surface I look ok but I’ve started to Hate my partner for not helping me on one single night past 1am. For every single night of her life I’ve done her bedtime and her 1am-8.30am slot and obviously all the day care. I need to just go down to 2-3 wakes so I can regroup. I get blurred vision every night cause of exhaustion. My skin is rashing. So, we are going on a trip for 5 days to the sea to relax and enjoy the last contact naps which she does exclusively and Coles which we have now returned to. That’s why I feel so bad, sleep has gotten so bad and her cot refusal so bad that I ended up cosleeping with her and feeding to sleep after getting us to a point she was rocking to sleep and on her next to me. I thought it would be a good idea to get her sued to her new bedroom before sleep training but it backfired and she’s back in my bed cosleeping. It feels now inhumane to sleeep train when I’ve messed up her associations again. I feel so shameful and so guilty, I’ve only ever got As in school and uni and firsts in degreee ans I cannot get this baby to be a good sleeper. I’d love any encouragement or advice re sleep training. I’ve paid a consultant so I have someone accountability wise and I am confused on schedules and just need a help but she’s not even o told me her methods?

My baby girl is almost 6 months (3 days away) and all of the sudden 2 weeks ago we had a random day at bedtime where she just refused to sleep, she screamed at the top of her lungs for an hour. Then again 3 days later. And twice the following week following a pattern of 2-3 days apart.
For context she was always rough with sleep during the day and I’d have to rock and hold her through the whole naps but bed time was a breeze. I’d rock for a few minutes if she needed it but I could put her down and she’d put herself to sleep.
Now my husband and I were getting exhausted working for 2 hours straight while she screamed at us and nothing seemed to work.
Skip to today, the past three days she had screamed for 2 hours straight at bedtime, at the top of her lungs, I try to rock her, teething fixes, changing diaper and then my husband tries when I can’t take it anymore. She screams the whole time and sometimes even gets worse after we go into her room to try to fix it.
Extra context, the first 2 nights that it happened she was in a bassinet in our room and has transitioned to her crib in her nursery now. She naps amazing all day, with hardly any help from me unless she over tired. She is in bed around 7:30-8 every night because her internal clock says it’s bedtime at 7 and she becomes a nightmare.
She started teething early so I know what the teething pain looks like and how to fix it, and she’s a happy baby all day so why is the suddenly crying for an hour or 2 at bedtime before she finally gets so exhausted that she sleeps.
Did anybody else’s baby do this? How long does it last? Any tips?

Our daughter is 8 months. We started sleep training at 6 months. Bedtime is 8:30 with wake up at 7. She does 3/3.5/4 wake windows and try to cap naps to around 2.5-2.75 hours a day.

She usually wakes up once a night for a bottle but hasn't the past two nights!!! Very proud of her however we are now getting less sleep 🫠 The issue is she'll wake a little between sleep cycles, whine a bit (loudly), and goes back to sleep. She never opens her eyes or tries to stand in her crib which is what she does when she wants the bottle.

Just curious if this is a normal phase or if anyone has any tips/tricks to sleep through these periods of resettling as the parents. Tonight we are going to try moving the monitor further away but I'm practically blind so I'm afraid I'll still have to wake up to go and look to see if she actually needs anything 🙈

Bedtime routine has become a 3-hour chore because my LO (14 weeks) will absolutely refuse to stay asleep straight from 8-8:30PM. I try to respect wake windows in the morning and I cap every nap at 1 hour. He has 5 naps a day until I TRY to put him to bed around 8ishPM. Every night, he wakes up after 30’ ready to party and then again I try to put him back to bed. This goes on until 10-11PM when he finally sleeps for the night. I’m honestly drained and need my evenings back!

It’s just as the title says. My 10 month old daughter has been a great sleeper basically since day one until recently she is taking 30-60+ minutes to put down and waking between 3-6am to practice her new skills. The last 3 hours of my sleep consist of flopping her back and forth from the crawling position to the sleeping position. There’s even been a few nights she’s gone to sleep for an hour or so and then woke up and was awake until midnight before she finally went back to sleep again. Now I know everyone says it’s a “sleep regression” but I don’t really believe that. I think it’s a schedule issue more than anything and I just don’t know where to adjust. As I’ve tried a few things already and it has gotten a little better but still not great. I’ll leave her schedule below any tips/tricks or advice is helpful. Thanks!

Wake — 6am
Nap #1 — 9:15-10:15
Nap #2 — 1:45-2:45
Bedtime — 7:30

Her wake windows are roughly 3/4/4.45 give or take a little bit. Her first wake window is only 3 hours because she literally will not stay awake longer, after about 2.15 hours she fusses up until her 1st nap and we normally do a walk to cancel the fussing out but if we go past 3hrs on the walk she just falls asleep in the stroller. Also I just recently went from 3 hours of daytime sleep to 2 hours in an effort to fix bedtime and I do think it helped but only a little that was about a week ago. When I lay her down she never cries or fusses she just lays here either with a totally blank stare or moving her legs like she’s trying to run a marathon. If we can’t get her to sleep after an hour we go back out to the living room dim the lights and let her play quietly for another 15-20 minutes and then she usually will fall asleep after that. Anyways sorry for the long post but I figured the more details the better!

Her sleep schedule is up at 5am, nap at 8:40, up from that around 10:30, nap again at 2, up at 3:30 and bed for the night at 7. she sleeps through the night.

we’ve tried: extra black out curtains, louder sound machine, later bedtime, less naps, more naps.

My 15 week old has been a great sleeper from the beginning and I was hoping she would follow her big sister (now 3 years old) and not have any real sleep regressions besides the disruptive sleep when she was learning a new skill.

Baby girl goes to sleep completely independently (I had nothing to do with it...she's just that kind of baby). She's breastfed and sleeps in her own crib. She did start rolling on the early side (12 weeks) so she sleeps on her belly. She's on 4 naps that equal about 4 hours of day sleep, bedtime is around 7-730.

Starting this week she went from waking once at 3-4am to eat to waking up a bunch of times. Two nights ago she woke up at 10pm, 12am (fed her), 2am and 3am(fed her) and woke up at 630 for the day. Last night she woke up at 1am(fed her), 230, 3 and then at 330 (fed her) and woke up at 7am for the day. The wake ups I don't feed her I go in and hold her and then put her down (still awake) and she will fuss but fall back to asleep. I'm really stressed about her crying because I live in a duplex and feel badly for my neighbors. From what other parents describe sleep regressions sound a lot more wake ups so I'm thinking not? She's on the small side so she isn't ready to be night weaned yet.

Baby is 5 months old with intense temperament. She started rolling 3 weeks ago from back to belly but hasn’t rolled belly to back and it has been very disruptive to sleep. She’s never been a sleepy baby but we were getting decent stretches before she rolled like anywhere between 3-6 hours for the first stretch and then she’ll wake every 2 hours after that. I would see her on the cameras self soothing sometimes. Now she will wake up every 2 hours on her stomach crying and not self soothing.

Lots of tummy time during the day. Room is super dark with white noise.
Idk if it’s the rolling or sleep regression or both.
I stopped swaddling at 4 months bc she would break out of it all the time.
I used to bounce her on a yoga ball to sleep but she’s a big baby and she also doesn’t want me to hold her to sleep unless she’s super sleepy so I started using a stroller and once she’s asleep, I take her to her bedroom where she will wake up so I have to give her milk so that she sleeps and then I transfer her to the crib. Sometimes she stay asleep and other times, she will roll to her side and sleep. If she rolls to her stomach, I have to intervene bc she will spit up. I don’t know how to break that cycle it’s the only thing that works right now. She has to have both the strolling and the milk…CIO is not for me and with Ferber, she gets more upset when I come in and don’t pick her up.
She drinks almost 26-32 ounces in a day.

I’ve spoke to several sleep consultants and haven’t found one that isn’t just reading a one size fit all script to me. I just don’t know how to handle sleep training when she hasn’t mastered rolling both ways.
Also I feel like her temperament makes it harder to sleep train.

She will nap 2.5 hours total a day and will sleep maybe 11 hours total of broken sleep at night. Every so often, she will sleep 6-8 hours straight in which I think we’ve turned a corner but the next day we go back to waking up every 2 hours.

I’ve never co-slept with my baby but I’m so sleep deprived I’m considering it but at the same time, I don’t know if my baby would like it anyways since she doesn’t like to be cuddled.

Any advice ok how to get through this phase??

Has anyone else dealt with a really strong pacifier sleep association? What did you end up doing?

I’m in the exact same situation. For the past few weeks, I’ve been replacing my baby’s (18 weeks old) pacifier every 20 minutes all night long because he’d wake up as soon as he noticed it was gone after a sleep cycle.

Last night we tried transitioning him from the Snoo to the crib while also taking away the pacifier, and it was a complete disaster. He cried for 45 minutes before finally falling asleep and slept for about 3 hours. After that, he woke up every hour, crying for about 45 minutes each time. By 2:00 a.m. I gave in and gave him the pacifier, and by 5:00 a.m. we had both given up and were sleeping in the rocking chair.

If you’ve been through this, did you go cold turkey with the pacifier, gradually wean it, or wait until after the crib transition? I feel like I’m trying to tackle too much at once, but I also don’t know if continuing the pacifier will just prolong the problem. I don’t mind the pacifier but he can’t replace it so it’s becoming too much. I’d love to hear what worked for you.

Our baby boy is an amazing sleeper. He slept through the night from 8 weeks old and was sleep trained from 4 months of age (to help with day naps). He has only ever had sleep struggles when needing a routine change. Other than that, he has been incredible.

At around 11 months of age, he started screaming when he knew we were getting him ready for bed and once put down in the cot for both day and night sleeps (this is extremely unusual) and needed us to be in the room patting him to fall asleep.

Usually, this means a routine change so I attempted one nap (I tried putting him down at 11.30, 12pm and 1pm over the course of a week) rather than two naps (two naps were 3.25/3.25/3.25 although last nap became shorted to an hour recently)

However, for the first time ever, progressing to the next routine didn’t help. In fact, I think this only made things worse as he started early waking and a few night wakes from being overtired).

He is teething on and off but he has never struggled with this. I know for sure his molars are coming through so it could be that? I have even taken him to the dr to ensure he’s not unwell. However we have had no luck.

Returning to 2 naps has helped and this week, he has been able to fall asleep solo twice. We currently leave the room, let him cry for 2 mins and re-enter (this is what we were taught by our sleep trainer (and after 2 mins you increase to 5 min intervals etc but jt rarely gets to that). He ALWAYS then falls asleep with us patting him once we have re-entered.

Once he is asleep at night he sleeps through to the morning. The day time naps are anywhere from 1-1.5 long (they used to be 1.5-2).

This inability to fall asleep on his own has now lasted nearly 2 weeks.

- is this just a clingy phase?
- is he getting used to us patting him and becoming reliant on it?
- could he currently be in the middle of one and two naps?
- could it be the molars? He is a little clingy when awake but seems perfectly normal. Also giving him pain relief hasn’t helped.
- do we need to let him cry for longer?

Any suggestions? I know it’s not the biggest issue as he is eventually falling asleep after being patted but bed time is starting to become really anxiety inducing and this is so so rare for our baby boy. I also dont want it getting worse. Just wondering if anyone has any insight or tips/stories?

THANK YOU

Mi bebé cumple 6 meses en tres dias, pero desde que tiene 5 meses las siestas se han vuelto una tortura. He leído mucho sobre la cantidad que debe dormir durante este tiempo y nada más lejos de la realidad, hace 2 o 3 siestas durante el día de media hora cada una, y eso con suerte, hoy por ejemplo solo hizo una pequeña siesta de media hora. Da igual todo lo que intente para dormirlo, nada funciona.

My 9 week old is over 15 lbs (EBF) Since birth he has slept next to me in the Halo Swivel Bassinet, but the bassinet weight limit is 20lbs. For weeks he can kick around and swivel that thing in different positions. He himself can move all around in his sleep and end up balled up in a completely different section. I was worried about him tipping it over so today we unboxed the pack and play. He napped 50 minutes in it this afternoon and he is currently on hour 3 of bedtime sleep in it.

I’m quite anxious because now it’s at the front of the room instead of next to me and I can’t hear him shuffling or check his breathing. The camera set up will be moved tomorrow to accommodate the new location, but for tonight I’m watching it next to my bed even though he is about 10 feet away.

He looks and sounds so peaceful, maybe more comfy than the small hard bassinet? Has anyone done this and were you worried about your baby being further away?