u/InterestingRiver3591

I’m in a relationship and we’re planning marriage. My partner is conservative, I’m not. We agreed to meet halfway, but it feels like all the change is on me.

He comments on how I dress, doesn’t like me interacting with men, and even simple things like going for a walk or the cinema turn into “don’t go” or “dress conservative.” I feel like I need permission for normal things. Even seeing my best friend (female) has become stressful because her husband is around and it causes fights.

We’ve talked about it, nothing changes. I feel more managed than loved.

Is this just a values difference, or am I losing my autonomy?