u/InterestingSweet4131

My husband and I were laying down with our newborn while he was on Instagram. I didn’t think anything of it because I assumed he was on our shared account. He was showing me something, and I noticed the profile picture looked different, so I asked if he had changed the picture on our Instagram to one of just himself. He said yes, but when I checked the account on my phone, nothing had actually been changed.

That’s when I realized it was a completely separate Instagram account that he had never told me about. He said it was for crypto, but what upset me wasn’t just the account itself — it was the fact that he kept it hidden from me and never mentioned it. When I brought it up, he said I was only mad because I thought he was hiding something or doing something behind my back, but from my perspective, keeping a secret account from me was hiding something.

I reacted the way I did because it genuinely hurt and upset me. What made it feel even worse is knowing that if the roles were reversed and I had a hidden account he didn’t know about, he would’ve been furious, called me a hoe, and told me and my daughter to get out of the house.

I’ve been thinking about getting into journaling as a hobby, but I’m struggling with what to actually write about. I’ve tried just writing out my thoughts, but they end up getting really jumbled and all over the place, and when I go back to read it, it barely makes sense.

Another issue is that I can be pretty particular about how things look. If my handwriting isn’t neat or the page doesn’t look “right,” I end up tearing it out, which gets frustrating and kind of ruins the experience. I want journaling to feel relaxing and satisfying, not stressful.

I also have a 3-month-old, so I thought journaling could be a nice, calm hobby to do while she’s asleep, something just for me.

Does anyone have suggestions for how to get started, prompts to follow, or ways to make journaling feel more organized (and maybe a little more visually satisfying) without overthinking it?