[27F] me and my BF [27M] have been together officially for 6 years going on 7, We have had our ups and downs but the main thing is that he went for a long time (almost a year) unemployed and wasn’t really taking me anywhere due to that fact.
I also want to add that during the course of our relationship I went from 400 lbs to 200 and got a tummy
tuck and BA recently. I look wayyy different than when we started dating and since then he has gotten more possessive?? (still caring and sweet but acting differently since i look better) Anyways fast forward.
During that time I went out with my friends more and discovered I really like clubbing. During this era I felt disconnected to him since I barely saw him and was out most of the time. He never wanted to go out and do anything due to the fact. on top of that we did take a week break bc he assumed I was cheating when i literally told him where i was and what i was doing (we have a shared calendar and share locations). I initiated the break because i was so over feeling like i was the problem. I have a career and make my own money and take care of my
own things!
He just recently got a job and we’ve been going out more (just buying food no really sit down date besides my birthday and valentines) but it doesn’t feel the same. I feel bad bc i really love him and i want this to work but he’s my first serious relationship and i’m not sure if this is just the feeling of being just comfortable with eachother and being away from the honeymoon phase or if im not in love with him anymore. Idk what to do or how i can respark the flame we had. open to answering questions