I (28F) and my fiancé (33M) are planning our 2027 wedding. I have 6 bridesmaids (wish I had less, but my fiancé asked if I can make his sister a bridesmaid and I said “okay” - feel like I’m going to regret that, but I’ve made my bed)
I’ve been friends with a woman for over 10 years. We were college roommates and she is a good friend of mine, but she wouldn’t be a good bridesmaid (and maybe that’s mean to say?). She loses her phone A LOT so she consistently is getting new numbers, she can only use her phone when she has WiFi, she lives on the other side of the country, and most of the time we can only speak through insta (and we usually speak once a month when she does answer her phone). I just think tracking her down all the time is not another thing I need on my plate. Again, maybe that’s mean to say? I don’t know
Here’s my dilemma. I found out recently she was talking to our other friend and as soon as she picked up she said “I better be a bridesmaid!” It made my other friend uncomfortable because she is a bridesmaid. She didn’t tell her that she is one, but she called me after and told me what happened. She then said she thinks I should tell her that she’s not. I’m on the fence about it though. I don’t think I’m obligated to tell her that she isn’t a bridesmaid in my wedding, but she thinks I need to because we are a “trio friend group”. Do I need to tell her this or should I just wait until she brings it up and break the news? Also, how do I even break the news to her? I can’t be like “oh you’d stress me out if you were one”. I kinda have no idea how to handle this…