Confused about where I stand after 5-6 months of talking to someone from matrimonial app. Also, how to disclose health issues in arranged marriage? [ edited with GPT ]

TLDR: Connected with girl (25F) on matrimonial app in Oct 2025. Disclosed my controlled hypertension early on (thought honesty was important). She seemed fine, but became distant after. 5 months later, we're still talking but she's passive, and now she's hesitant about my health issues. She keeps asking about my condition but when I ask if she has concerns, she pulls back. Confused why she continued talking if unsure. Also seeking advice on how to handle health disclosures in arranged marriage scenarios.

The Story

I (25M) matched with a girl (25F) on a matrimonial app in October 2025. We quickly moved to WhatsApp and started talking daily at night. The conversations were good—getting to know each other, sharing likes, dislikes, future expectations, and even past relationships.

The Health Disclosure

About a week into talking, she disclosed she was rejected by her college crush due to her social/ economic conditions and asked if i was okay with it ? I said fine if she was over him and also told her about my past relationship. I also disclosed that I have controlled hypertension since I was 17 (currently on medication, no smoking/drinking, exercise daily). I shared this because I wanted to be honest from the start. The next day, she became distant. When I followed up, I explained my condition and daily routine, and she seemed to accept it. We went back to normal for the rest of November.

The Early Red Flags

Meanwhile, she hid her matrimonial profile, and so did I thinking she was serious. She's an introvert hence she doesn't text/ call much which I understood given that she worked 3/5 days in office and lived alone in a different city. However, her tendency to not initiate conversations sometimes bothered me.

December - First Meet

We met for lunch in late December when she was visiting relatives in my city. It went well, but while she stayed with her relatives, she became less responsive, claiming her cousins made her uncomfortable. I also noticed her profile became active on the matrimonial app again, which made me panic. I didn't ask her directly but told her I liked her and asked if she felt the same. She ignored this message**.**

We met again at a bus stop during her return journey in early January. After she got back home, she mentioned wanting to focus on studying for government jobs (sleeping early, waking up early). I asked her thoughts on my earlier confession. She said she needed time to think.

The Pattern Emerges

I stopped initiating after that. She seemed to sense this and started suggesting calls. After 4-5 days, she said she wanted to continue talking. We both hid our profiles again.

However, over the next month, her effort and initiations decreased significantly compared to the beginning. Occasionally, my health would come up in conversations.

The Exclusivity Conversation (Early April)

In early April, I saw her profile active again on the matrimonial app. I messaged her politely, saying I was also active, and suggested we move forward with exclusivity if we were serious. She went silent for a day, then got angry when I followed up. She said I was trying to control her and that she was free to talk to others on other platforms. She also said I was free to walk away.

I responded that we'd been talking for 5-6 months and I just wanted clarity if we were both serious. After this, I stopped initiating for a day or two, but she started reaching out asking if I had anything on my mind. She deleted her profile afterward.

The Health Concern Resurfaces

Thinking I'd overreacted, I resumed normal conversation. But she remained passive. Then, during a call, she said something was bugging her. When I asked, she admitted she wasn't sure about my health issues also mentioned one of her close relative had died few years back because of hypertension. She said she hadn't thought seriously about our conversations until I pointed out her activity on the matrimonial app.

This didn't sit right with me. We'd discussed my health condition multiple times since the beginning, and now—after 5 months—she's expressing doubt? Especially after me initiating exclusivity conversation

I told her I'd shared my health honestly from the start, and if she wasn't comfortable, we could stop talking.

Recent Development

She cried and said it was never her intention to bring up the health topic. I told her to take her time. Since then (late April), she messages or calls about once a week, but mostly asking about my health, future implications, doctor reports, and whether we can visit a doctor together for his opinion. I did share my latest doctor consultation reports with her. When she suggested visiting a doctor to get opinions on my health issues, and i mentioned it felt like an evaluation or test I'd need to pass (given how distant we'd been), but then i agreed saying we can visit a doctor when she's in town. A few days later, she said she didn't want to discuss the topic anymore.

Now she's back to pinging me casually asking how I'm doing, etc.

My Questions

1. Why did she keep talking for 5-6 months if she was unsure? She had multiple opportunities to exit. I explicitly said she could walk away. Why continue?
2. How should I approach health disclosures in arranged marriage scenarios? Should I disclose earlier, later, or only if things get serious? I thought transparency was better, but now I'm second-guessing.
3. Am I being unreasonable about exclusivity? After 5 months of daily talks, asking to move forward seemed reasonable to me.

I know I'm not perfect and have my flaws. I'd appreciate honest feedback.