After recovering from a traumatic masters pilla story. I decided to reach out to a few of my bachelor friends to check if anyone is ready to settle down. Like marriage.
Intlo elago matches chustha annaru. Anduke, I also decided to give it a try.
Story:
As I said, I reached out to a female acquaintance that I knew from bachelors. I rarely used to talk to her but we were placed in the same company. Kaani as I have received a good offer from a different company I choose to take that one.
Long story short, I didn't check her messages back in 2020 cause she reached out to me to check if I accepted the offer.
Naa burra paadu ki, I responded to that message after 2022 or 2023. 🥲
I didn't give that much attention any time. We both are movie freaks. She used to upload stories and one day idli kadai movie anukunta she did upload a story just like that. Naaku aa movie picchaga nachhindhi. So, I also responded to her saying that it was one of the best masterpiece ani. Later, we discussed about that movie and we ended the conversation.
Later, I guess it was her birthday and I wished her. I asked her permission if I can send reels. We exchanged reels back and forth and it went very well for a month.
In the meanwhile one fine day maa roommate took my phone and liked all of her insta posts from the last 2 years and I realized it later. 😔
I thought that the situation was out of hand and nenu chesedhi em leka. I decided not to panic.
For my surprise she unfollowed me and followed me back again. Daridram enti ante I could not even explain that it's not me.
Later we still texted. Now, this is the end of december and it's almost the new year. We were texting all night which is her night and my morning.This went on for a few days. Later, she said that she is emotionally connected with me. Inka oka abbai ki asalu aaguthadha when somebody says something like that. 🤣
Meanwhile I said that, I was looking for a wifey but she said she is dealing with her relationship issues and naaku teli kunda I also got emotionally connected with her.
Taravata, I decided to back off because she has some other person in her mind and we text once in a while anthe.
My learnings:
* Always be very self conscious while texting or flirting with anyone.
* Make sure not to emotionally connect with someone without commitment and clarification.
* I know that single people tend to fall easily when they think they found their partner but always remember to take it slowly and steadily.
* Also, coming out of this emotional attachment feels like hell and it's core suffering.
* Anything without clarity should not be entertained.
* It took me almost 2 months to come out of that one month of session. So, bondhas its ok of being single but never get into this game of emotions too fast. Take it slow maamu's.
It's one of the life lessons that I have learnt after this 2 months of suffering.
Conclusion:
"I believe that anybody who is consciously single would have faced this at least once in their life.
This is mainly due to the loneliness a person goes through regardless of any gender.
Moreover the feeling of being empty and the want of sharing things leads to the fast attachment. "
Strategies that worked for me are hitting gym, running, cycling, meeting new people, reducing the time spent all alone by myself and socializing periodically.