Together for 3 years, and for 3 years, I've also been struggling emotionally. 31F and he's 32M
My boyfriend has a child with his ex, and they used to live together before. Before they met, we already dated, but life had different plans for us back then. Years later, they broke up, we found each other again, and eventually became a couple.
Our relationship has grown deeper over time, and honestly, we both feel like we've found a connection we never had with anyone else. We understand each other well, and I genuinely feel peaceful and happy whenever I'm with him.
The problem is mostly within me. Whenever we're apart, I overthink our situation a lot. I know he has responsibilities as a father, and I respect that completely. I don't hate the child at all, and I'm actually supportive of their bonding time together. Most of the time, he even includes me.
But sometimes, I still struggle emotionally with the reality that he already built a family and has a permanent connection with his ex because of their child. I know their co parenting relationship is civil. Still, there are days when the situation feels emotionally heavy for me. Sometimes, I also find myself wondering what our setup will look like in the future, especially once we start building our own family together.
I truly love him, and I know he loves me too. I guess I just want to ask if anyone here has experienced being in a healthy relationship with someone who already has a child. How did you handle the overthinking and emotional adjustment over time?