u/Interesting_Plate425

So my Boyf (22M) and i (22F) are in a relationship for almost 2 years. he was very loving and put so much effort like always bringing flowers, handwritten letters and always wanted to talk and spend time together online because we live 2h bus trip away and its tiring a little so I didn't put pressure on him to meet me every day or every week. he was a loverboy like he was needy and sweet and cute i really loved him so much after the last 3 relationship because they were horrible. but as time goes he says he's now getting comfortable but i feel so distant from him. like he just meets and we hangout like its his duty to let me have a good time with him and then we go home. but not like we used to before, yk like spending time together because we both want to. it makes me so sad. and now he doesn't even call me we're just texting and that's all. i feel like this relationship is failing again. idk why but i feel so sad i cry most of the time but i also don't wanna go. i know i can leave but i want him to try again and put those efforts back in. its like i feel homesick for the version that doesn't exist anymore. yesterday i called him in the morning and he didn't pickup he said he was sleeping. i didn't text him because i wanted him to text me or say goodmorning or ask me why i called because i never do that unless i wake up from a nightmare or having any difficulty. he woke up and didn't even text me. then at afternoon he texted "hii baby, why didn't you text me" not a "you called me are you okay? anything happened?" because that was him 8months ago. he'd care he'd notice everything even if i didn't talk much he'd catch on it and keep asking me if i was okay. i hate this drastic change in him. like the normal couple things are missing out in our relationship. we just say i love you and i miss you and thats all work for the relationship. and i find myself being more fuzzy and fighting because im frustrated. i don't how to stop this anymore. im so insecure and i just cry everyday because i miss him so much. i really want that older version of him to come back but he spends more of his time watching reels and playing games now.