Tl;dr: am I objectifying guys with a lot of tattoos or do I just have a preference?
I’ve (30F) realized that I really like tattoos. Really, really like them. I know I’ve always liked the alternative style, like tattoos, piercings, stretched lobes, and all that jazz. I was dating this guy and looking at his chest piece when we were doing it did everything better. When I first started dating after a 10 year long relationship I wanted to start seeing guys that were more in to the alternative style but it didn’t need to be much. I could even date someone without tattoos or piercings if the other things feel right. But now I can’t imagine sleeping with someone that doesn’t have any tattoos.
I’ve started thinking that it might be a kink and I don’t know if it’s ethical? It feels like I’m objectifying guys with tattoos. I still have other criteria. Wanting kids, finding them attractive in other ways aswell, like spending time with them.
Is this just a preference or am I objectifying them? The idea of getting tattoos or seeing someone getting a tattoo isn’t in anyway sexual though