AITA wanting to break up with my(f24) boyfriend(m25) who mentions his ex?
Hello All.
To begin, my BF and I have been together about 6 months, have known one another for a few years now. He was together with his ex for many years and they broke up about three months before we started talking. Normally I wouldn't date someone that soon after a break up but she had cheated on him during their relationship which led to an open relationship that wasn't very healthy that lasted for two years (he said he felt it had ended a long time ago when she cheated).
In this I believed him because I remember him being unhappy with her. That said, he continues to say and do several little things that keep getting to me. One of the things he will do is mention her in relation to small things that would come up convo, in very unnecessary ways like saying "oh she always made a big deal if we are parked far away from the grocery store," when looking to park at the store. I had made a comment to him and its gotten better but will still sometimes come up.
One other thing that has come to my attention is he will talk about her in front of my parents, even when I am not present. My mom has had to tell me about one time when my bf was sitting with them in our yard and they noticed some of the wild neighborhood rabbits. His ex had a pet rabbit, and within one convo he had mentioned the phrase "my ex" 10 times (my mom even counted it) which made my father very uncomfortable. He will also mention her in group settings around his friends, who all had met her, when I am there with them. To make it worse I know she will still text him asking how he and I are doing. He typically doesn't answer but occasionally will; even once texted her when this strange older guy contacted him asking about her info, saying to make sure she wasn't in trouble. My bf proceeded to rant to me how he felt so uncomfortable having to check in with his ex about this guy wanting her number. It made me very upset that he was even involved.
The last and most recent thing that happened was he began to refer to me by her name. We were in the car w/ one of his friends, and in referencing me in an activity we had recently done he began to say her name. He stopped midway through and corrected but it was very clear as our names are not similar. I had told him after the fact how that really hurt me and he apologized. Now after all of these things, I can't imagine wanting to touch him or be close with him. He is coming over to my place tomorrow and I keep thinking about telling him not to come, I just feel so gross about it all. I know I need to talk to him about this again but I can't help thinking of the likelihood of just breaking up. AITA?