His girlfriend made him block me 4 years ago… would it be ok to reach out now?
Me (33F) used to have a male best friend (35M) during my university years.
He was the kind of friend you stay up all night talking to about everything in life, and I truly felt like I could always count on him.
Years after graduation, we had moved to different cities. Later on, he started dating a girl, and I knew things were getting serious between them, to the point that he told me they were planning to get married. Around the same time, I moved to another country, started a new life, and got married too, but we still kept in touch through messages on social media.
The problem was that his girlfriend was extremely jealous... not only of me, but basically of any girl around him, even girls he followed on Instagram. Even though we were only texting occasionally, she eventually made him block me everywhere, and we completely lost contact. I should also add that this wasn’t the first time he stopped talking to me because of a relationship.
It’s been almost 4 years now. I still think about him sometimes, especially around his birthday. Recently, I managed to find an old number of his, although I don’t even know if he still uses it or if I’m blocked on it. I also don’t know if they’re still together anymore. The mutual friends we used to have don’t really talk to him anymore either, and apparently he deleted all of his social media accounts.
But I genuinely miss my friend and would love to talk to him again.
Would it be wrong to try to send him a message after all this time?
TL;DR: My former male best friend stopped talking to me and blocked me years ago because of his jealous girlfriend. We haven’t spoken in almost 4 years, but I recently found an old number of his and I’m wondering if it would be wrong to reach out because I genuinely miss my friend.