Am I wrong for leaving my friends BBQ after she told me my kids could come?
Hi everyone, I 33F need to know if I’m being too sensitive here.
My friend “Kayla” invited me, my husband, and our two kids to her BBQ this weekend. I asked her twice if kids were ok because I know some people want adult only stuff and I’m fine with that. She said yes both times and said “bring them, it’s super chill.”
When we got there, it was very clearly not that kind of BBQ. People were already pretty drunk, the music was loud, and one guy kept vaping right next to where my kids were sitting. I moved them away and then he followed the group over and did it again. I asked him nicely if he could not do it right beside them.
He laughed and said “they’ll live.” Kayla heard and came over acting annoyed, saying I was making it awkward and that I should “relax for once.” My husband said we were just gonna go because the kids were uncomfortable. We said why we are leaving and we headed out.
Later Kayla texted me saying I embarrassed her in front of everyone and ruined the vibe. I told her I only left because I asked ahead of time and it ended up not being a good place for kids.
Now she’s telling our mutual friends that I made a whole scene and acted like her house was unsafe. I really don’t think I did anything wrong, but she’s been cold since.
Am I wrong for leaving?