u/Internal_Carpet_1021

What is considered controlling in a relationship? And what is considered setting healthy boundaries with the opposite gender?
If you see pt 1 of this post then uk whats gg on with me.
I wanna work things tru with her by telling her to set healthy boundaries but like i know how important a friend is for her, i just cant bear to make her choose btw her 3 year friend and me.
How do i set things straight with her? Its not like i can just tell her to stop seeing him :(
Idk what to do, i feel so lost and lonely.

Hi guys, this is just little rant i need to vent out.
So recently this girl i have been seeing, she has a close male best friend. Before we started dating they would hang out quite often but after meeting me they have been meeting way lesser.
Just today, she had a very busy friday and we both agreed that she should rest today and not hang out since we are seeing each other tmr anyway. But last minute, this guy friend wanna meet her for dinner since they apparently “never eat tgt for a long time” ( which is like 2 weeks ago btw ) and the she agreed to meet him.
Now, i’m not really jealous of him or anything but i’m just disappointed that she can have the energy to meet him but can’t agreed to meet me :(
Feels abit like she paitao me for him… even though technically i agree to let her rest tday. Honestly i am just disappointed like cuz everytime she wanna me i would paitao my friends for her but she never reciprocate. I mean i know i shouldn’t expect it from everyone but i guess inwardly i wish she would do that for me also, ig it makes me feel more important to her :(

Looking back i also noticed a pattern, everytime shes tired right this guy would suddenly last minute make plans with her and then it feels like i am getting punished even though i was just trying to be a gd bf by letting her rest.
Ps: ik u guys probably dun believe this, but I trust that she didnt secretly make plans with him and i trust that she is not using me as backup cuz she is always very honest of who she go out with
Also i am making a pt2 on this to ask more qns

In a relationship, at what point is it doing too much?
My gf was upset about no one to go with for a concert and I offered to go with her but she keep refusing telling me no, because the tickets are damn expensive and also I’m not even a fan of the singer so she doesn’t want me to waste any money, just to go to the concert for her.
Is it really not okay for me to go just to support her?

Ps: I m willing to pay the money and I’m okay with not being a fan.