Sometimes I think about smiling at someone I find attractive on the bus or MRT. I'd love to just offer a friendly smile, but I always hesitate because I'm afraid of making things awkward or seeming weird.
Hey everyone so am wondering how is it like to date in sg?
1.Usually how many dates do yall confess and get together?
2. And after how many do yall does first kiss happen? And for those who did can share what the story was like?
3. How long after yall move in
4. How ling till engaged and married
5. When was the first time?
6. How did yall meet
7. Do girls usually confess or guys do it first?
I really like this girl, I have to admit that at first I’m not looking for anything serious with her cause she’s not my type in the long term but pretty. So I just want to be closer to her as a friend and see where it goes.
Context: I would say I’m more of a mature and dominant guy, she is also quite mature but has a strong personality. We know each other for almost 2 years, go on a few dates, text frequently etc. We are not exclusive and she has been in talking stage with others cause we talked and rant about life to each other. Through these interactions and conversation, I like her slowly without realising it.
Recently, something happened which I can’t share here cause it’s sensitive. I don’t think I can stand us being like this forever. Because of this, I realised she’s the one for me and I can’t bear the pain for losing her so I want to tell her and let her committed to me.
So, I need an advice on how to proceed without losing her and also make her open to accept us?
Context/FACTS:
-House is BTO 3room flat
-1 Sibling sleeping in living room, 2 silbings in common room and another sibling in master bedroom with parents
-Started bringing gf to stay over since late janurary (do the math) mostly come in after 12am
-Often times when parents were asked from other siblings about her "scheduled" stays they are unaware till the last minute e.g at night
-Despite the partner leaving house early on a normal working day, gf able to sleep through in the masterbed room until its HER time to leave
- First Day of CNY (Feb) came to visit with the reason for possibly not able to come for subsequent visiting days but still came in the end, stayed over as well in feb.
-The parents are traditional, kind, and heavily conflict-avoidant (they play the "super chill" card just to keep the peace and avoid a blowout)
there were many other cases and scenarios of her bizarre behaviour but shall not be specific and focus on these main points
Feelings? Morals? Judgments? Conclusions?
Had a chat with a few of my colleagues recently, whom are all in their early 30s. They shared that they are doubtful about whether they will want to commit to a relationship and get married as they are quite happy with their current state of lives now. Is it a more common trend for girls to voluntarily stay single?
Would you rather date a guy who has a personality and is of your type but gets caught cheating on you or a guy who isn't your type but promises to stay loyal with you (lmao)
What’s weird is that some of the people who leave the biggest impact on us aren’t even exes. Sometimes it’s just someone you almost had something with. Wrong timing, bad communication, distance, or feelings that never fully got expressed.
I had one of those connections a while ago and even though nothing “real” technically happened, I still randomly think about them sometimes. Makes me wonder if unfinished stories hit harder because there’s no real closure
Im 29F, been living in Singapore for 4 years. I noticed i naturally connect better with men in their 40s. conversations feel calmer, deeper and more genuine somehow. Men my age usually don’t interest me much romantically. Curious if anyone else feels this way too.
If you’re a single 40+ guy and this resonates with you, feel free to say hi…
Hi guys, this is just little rant i need to vent out.
So recently this girl i have been seeing, she has a close male best friend. Before we started dating they would hang out quite often but after meeting me they have been meeting way lesser.
Just today, she had a very busy friday and we both agreed that she should rest today and not hang out since we are seeing each other tmr anyway. But last minute, this guy friend wanna meet her for dinner since they apparently “never eat tgt for a long time” ( which is like 2 weeks ago btw ) and the she agreed to meet him.
Now, i’m not really jealous of him or anything but i’m just disappointed that she can have the energy to meet him but can’t agreed to meet me :(
Feels abit like she paitao me for him… even though technically i agree to let her rest tday. Honestly i am just disappointed like cuz everytime she wanna me i would paitao my friends for her but she never reciprocate. I mean i know i shouldn’t expect it from everyone but i guess inwardly i wish she would do that for me also, ig it makes me feel more important to her :(
Looking back i also noticed a pattern, everytime shes tired right this guy would suddenly last minute make plans with her and then it feels like i am getting punished even though i was just trying to be a gd bf by letting her rest.
Ps: ik u guys probably dun believe this, but I trust that she didnt secretly make plans with him and i trust that she is not using me as backup cuz she is always very honest of who she go out with
Also i am making a pt2 on this to ask more qns
i feel like so many situations now just stay stuck in the talking stage for months without really becoming anything. you text often, maybe go out a few times, vibes are good, but nobody actually says what they want and eventually things either fade or become confusing
sometimes i genuinely cannot tell if people are interested or just bored and looking for someone to talk to
i’m quite chill and easygoing so i usually just go with the flow, but after awhile the uncertainty gets tiring too
for people who’ve actually turned a talking stage into a proper relationship, how did things naturally progress for you
you know that feeling when you see someone’s message pop up and you actually look forward to replying because the conversation just flows naturally
i feel like it’s quite rare nowadays. a lot of chats become dry very fast or stay at surface level, even when both people seem nice
sometimes i miss having that one person you can talk to about random things throughout the day without it feeling forced or awkward
curious if other people feel the same or if everyone is just too busy and tired nowadays
im tired and my heart feels heavy from all my failures in dating :( in my whole life since sec school till now early working days, i've been a very closed up person and rarely get attracted, so ive only had a close connection with 6 guys (2 from school, 4 from dating apps)
and without fail each time after 4 dates or more, they would end things with me.
i've scared of future rejection but also hoping to find love
every time a girl texts fast or wants attention suddenly she’s “too much” already lol so which one is it actually 😭
As the Title Suggest i really wanted to know what everyone thinks when someone needs or wants Genuine connections.
First off I've always wondered does Genuine Connection mean dating or can it also be friends? Pretty much me who is writing this know nothing of it as an Introvert who has little friends and occasionally goes out. Im a 24M who is a little shy never dated before and have just been going through life with the flow my whole life.
Recently I went to one of my Friends Massive Birthday Party at a Chalet and my social anxiety took over me as there were so many people I didn't know but luckily a few mutual friends were there to help me Calm myself. One of them who him and his gf were like let's say observing me throughout the party and Wanting to get to know me more (because it was the first time I met his gf) and it went pretty well as she made me feel extremely comfortable communicating.
When the party ended for some reason they wanted to intro me one of their friends and it shook me as it felt like it came outta nowhere so I just went and agreed to it but that was when it struck me and I haven't been able to stop thinking why they said of me Needing a Genuine Connection with someone to complement me and Support me as a person.
Fast forward to today, I met the girl only once with my same couple friends since that day and it's been like 3 months and more, I would say it went not so great but they said it went well so I trusted them but it really doesn't feel like it's progressing at all aswell as her being busy and stuffs(I did not get any of her socials and Contact information because it was just the first meeting). While reading this it's pretty obvious I'm quite an overthinker and my counsellor has said I have chronic overthinking and I wasn't really too worried about it.
So yeah ever since then I've just been wondering about "Genuine Connections" as this past half a year has been quite the rollercoaster of emotions for me as I went from being a person just focused on going on with my life to suddenly being pulled into the socializing scene even when I know it's for good intentions it just really didn't help my overthinking. I won't lie I am also a person yearning for connections because I feel like me and some of my friends don't seem to be connected in a way that makes me feel "loved". I have been trying to move on with life day by day but the thought about this has been eating me up a lot no matter how much I try to keep it I always feel "lonely".
Thanks everyone for reading :D. Really Appreciate any positive feedback and sharing! If anyone is interested to be friends or even looking for connections can drop me a DM too.
i’ve been off n on the dating apps but tbh after one last failure (tldr clicked w this guy super well, talked for hours every night just for him to suddenly say hes not ready to talk to someone new atm cuz he’s super busy with work…) tbh i give up like it made me so upset coz i thought it would actually have become something. for context i’ve never dated anyone before, just a situationship at most and it was horrendous 0/10 exp. but i still believe in love. ppl always say a relationship shld be an additional to ur life, not ur main source of happiness which i 100% agree. i js think i may not be happy w my life atm which is why i am so desperate for a relationship but it wouldn’t workout in the long run bc of this. i dont really have proper friends i can confide in, just school/cca friends but it feels very surface level. i dont reallt go out much and just rot in my room cuz i dont rly like to be alone. i know the issue but im not sure what i can do rn
Hi guys, I’m looking for serious advices. I recently just talked to this girl from an app and we’ve talking for about 3 days. Just now, she told me that she didn’t feel any sparks or romantic connection through our conversations. Im quite new to all these so I don’t get what people are looking for in this. I really need help for this. Thanks.
What is considered controlling in a relationship? And what is considered setting healthy boundaries with the opposite gender?
If you see pt 1 of this post then uk whats gg on with me.
I wanna work things tru with her by telling her to set healthy boundaries but like i know how important a friend is for her, i just cant bear to make her choose btw her 3 year friend and me.
How do i set things straight with her? Its not like i can just tell her to stop seeing him :(
Idk what to do, i feel so lost and lonely.
i’ve met people where conversations in person felt super natural and easy, but once we start texting it suddenly becomes dry or inconsistent. then there are people who are amazing over text but the vibe in real life feels completely different
makes dating quite confusing because nowadays so much of getting to know someone happens through texting first
personally i still value real life chemistry more, but at the same time if texting feels dead it’s hard not to lose interest abit
curious how other people see this. would bad texting be a dealbreaker for you if the in person vibe was actually good
wanna hear from both genders on how their experience is
Noticed a pattern - we become the shadow of our partner’s exes because we feel we’re not enough for the love they had for them.
So we become the shadow of our partner’s exes in an attempt to receive the love you’ve always wanted.
Just a friendly reminder that you are enough
Your partner may have loved their ex for y reasons - they don’t see the z in you but it does not mean you’re not loveable