I am an anxious and he's an avoidant. Can we ever work things out in the long term? Or logically it will always cause issues and can't work? I just need answers because the hot and cold dynamic in our relationship is killing me slowly
I’m 23M and moved to Singapore about a year ago for my Master’s, which I’ve recently finished. Before that, I worked for around two years, and I’m currently interning here.
I’ve never really dated before. I was focused on studies and work and never met someone I was interested enough in to pursue seriously. About a month ago, I decided to give dating apps a try for the first time.
I take care of myself, work out, enjoy fashion, travel quite a bit and have an active lifestyle. I’ve also put genuine effort into choosing good photos and prompts for my profiles.
The thing is, I’m fairly selective about who I like. I’ve had a few matches so far, but most either don’t reply or the conversation eventually dies. The people I’m particularly interested in rarely seem to match with me.
For other guys around my age in Singapore, is this pretty normal when you’re new to dating apps? Does being selective make it significantly harder?
I’m also Indian, so I’m curious about the experiences of other Indian guys or interracial daters here. Have you found ethnicity affects your matches much, or is it mostly down to individual preferences and your profile?
Just trying to understand the dating scene here since all of this is pretty new to me. need your advice guys!
Hey everyone! Looking for some advice or to hear from anyone who has been in a similar spot.
I’m a Singaporean girl currently studying in Sydney (I’ve been living here since I was 14). Recently, I started dating a Lebanese-Australian guy, and he’s been absolute lovely. However, bringing him up to people back home in Singapore has been a bit of a culture shock for me.
My family (mostly Chinese uncles and aunties) immediately made assumptions about his background, assuming he’s Muslim (he’s actually a Maronite Catholic) and being quite disapproving just because of his race, sometimes being impressed by the way he looks and stop smiling the moment I mentioned his heritage.
What surprised me even more was the reaction from many of my female friends back in Singapore. These are girls I grew up with who come from well-to-do backgrounds and many are studying overseas for universities now. When I showed them a picture of him, a couple of them said things like, "Omg he’s so handsome, are you sure he’s not Italian or European French? He doesn't look typical Arab." I know they probably didn't mean it maliciously, but it felt a bit backhanded and left a weird taste in my mouth.
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F here, pretty new to relationships, been tgt with my bf for a few months.
I’m someone who likes to plan ahead and recently I’ve been wondering if it’s unreasonable for me to want to have a rough idea of when we’re going to meet each week. Like ideally, I’d want to sit down at the start of the week and make some concrete plans like “let’s meet on ___” rather than just leaving it open and figuring it out as the week goes.
I don’t necessarily need every single detail planned out and I’m not expecting him to always be available on the days I want. I think I just like having some certainty and knowing when I’ll get to see him. It also makes it easier for me to plan the rest of my week around it.
But I’m not sure if this is too much to expect from a relationship. I’m worried that wanting to confirm plans in advance might come across as being too rigid, demanding or like I need too much reassurance/attention.
For those who are in relationships, do you usually plan your meetups for the week in advance? Or is it more normal to just go with the flow and decide as the week goes? Is it reasonable for me to want more concrete plans or should I be more flexible about it?
Hiii! Im 19F, i wanna try dating too since I've never had a bf bfr. But after hurting someone i got to know after a month from hinge, i felt like i had to change myself.
I can understand myself better now but i just dont know how to improve myself. The more i care for the person, i tend to push them away more. I find it weird too, im not sure why i tend to do that. I really tried to communicate with him and told him whatever i was overthinking abt. He was so nice too! He gave me hints that he wanted to marry me and i felt even more conflicted. (I'm muslim so i appreciated that but i just think its too fast ykyk) But i was going through so much things at that time and felt so overwhelmed until i told him that I couldn't continue texting him anymore.
He texted me again after a month, and i replied. I agreed to give it another try but i just ghosted him after a week, and i just couldn't figure out why i did that. I felt really bad though, so after a few months i decided to text him and apologize to him abt that. He was nice still, im glad for that.
So after that i just realized that I shouldn't be getting to know new people and work on myself instead. But i really don't know how. I think i might be afraid of commitment and i just find it hard to be interested in someone fully.
What are some must have traits that your partner should have before deciding settling down with that person ? I’ve been dating my bf for 7yrs now ( mid 20s ) . Would really like to ask married couple , what are some traits that is a must have to settle down
For couples who are married, what do you think is the best approach to managing money?
I offered a break because he got very cold as he was stressed. He didn't confirm yes or no to the break. After that convo, he ghosted and it's been a few weeks now of no contact. Can I safely assume we broke up? I want to start moving on because the limbo of uncertainty hurts
Why do I only attract married men or men with gf? What are their intentions for approaching me and how do I tell they are taken?
can be for any range of years of friendship, group of friends - basically people you know but your S/O does not have any relational context
What do u do if u are not interested in the convo? Do u just ghost or like give a little note to inform the person?
Tbf if the person starts ghosting i will ask to check in but when they will comeup with all weird reasons i say bye bye. I wonder if they really need a backup or they just trying to be nice and act like they are not ghosting.
If you have a boyfriend who loves to play mind games, for example, whenever you’re out having a good time, he likes to bring up his ex or other girls. Or you’re out watching a movie, and he purposely keeps ogling at the actress. There’s nothing inherently wrong with looking at an actor or actress and appreciating their beauty. But when he does it in a way where he clearly wants you to react, wants you to feel a certain way about yourself, or constantly brings another girl into the conversation to triangulate, it feels very off.
You can see that he’s doing it purposely, and the only conclusion I can come to is that he’s feeling very insecure, even though I never made him feel that way. I think it’s his own internal insecurity being projected onto the relationship.
And when this keeps happening, even after you tell him to stop, he acts blur like, “Huh? I’m just kidding,” or, “Why are you reacting this way?”
I’ve finally realized that this is a sign of someone being very immature and childish. Every conversation starts to make me feel on guard, like, “Oh my God, is he going to say something or bring up another girl just to irritate me and spoil my mood?”
Have you ladies encountered guys like this? How do you handle it? What would you do?
Hi guys, what are some ways you guys take to move on from someone? There’s this girl in my mind for a year-ish and I wish to move on from her. I’ve accepted that our fate is over and I want to get back to healing. However, I still find myself drifting back to the times we shared together and it makes my chest heavy. I really want to move on from this girl and heal from this. I want to be able to give my 100% to the next person to be fair to her and myself.
Collated some new activities for this weekend! If you found this useful, pls comment for better reach so more people can see it 🙏 Feel free to add on to the list as well~
Maju Forest Hiking Trail (Free)
Maju Forest, Clementi Road, Neighbourhood Park
Outdoor Fair 2026 (Free)
Suntec Singapore Convention & Exhibition Centre, Hall 404
Concours d'Elegance Singapore 2026 $29
IMBA Theatre, Gardens by the Bay
Anthony Chen’s Trilogy Films $16
Filmhouse
MAJU for The People Rally (Free)
Hong Lim Park
CASETiFY STUDiO at The Shoppes at Marina Bay Sands (Free)
The Shoppes at Marina Bay Sands, B2-61A
Singapore Gallery Month (Free)
Various Locations
Me-You Market x Asian Civilisations Museum (Free)
Asian Civilisations Museum, River Room, Level 2
Yellow Ribbon Community Art Festival (Free)
One Holland Village
Singapore Shorts '26 $16
Various Cinemas
PROTOTYPE ISLAND (Free)
ArtScience Museum, B2 Circulation
REINVENTION: ALLPLAY 2026 (Free)
Geneo, 1 & 7 Science Park Drive
National Day Art Exhibition (Free)
SCCC Multi-Purpose Hall, Level 9
Kampung Elektrik (Free)
86-88 East Coast Road
Hawker Wars at Lau Pa Sat (Free)
Lau Pa Sat, 18 Raffles Quay
Battle of Bukit Chandu Tour $27
Geneo, Singapore
Randamu World (Free)
Suntec Convention Centre, Hall 401-402
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24M here. I work in an industry that requires me to work 6 days a week and especially on weekends. My colleagues are either too old or too young to consider me a partner. Dating Apps aren't working either. Everyone's standard just seems so high and far that I can't really catch up at all and I am really tired. No matter what I try, it doesn't work. Wishing for a partner just seems impossible now. Should I just accept the fact, give up and move on?
Got a handful of matches on hinged and bumble as a 33M. Majority of the matches are replying once a day or so. My gut tells me that they are just bored and I should move on. What are your thoughts?
Hi, I (25F) met this guy(26M) through strict date to marry app and every thing was vibing, everything is aligned, caste and all!! He seems and feels very promising but he is just not available and i don’t think so, i have high standards. I am good with texts and like one call in a month. As soon as we are vibing but idk he is just not available. I confronted him 2 times and he has been really good with me. Like saying all the right things talking about forever. I just have this hunch ki he might be exploring options out there. What should i do? Should i end it because of my overthinking? As again i will confront him he will say some nice things and i know still won’t be available.
I also know this hard and fast that no guy is so much busy that if you are looking forever with someone then you won’t be just available.
UPDATE GUYS - He said he just slept early 🫠 Am I really overthinking stuff here?
We met 2yr ago on dating app. I think he was interested in me at first for 3-4mth but I kind of only saw him as a friend. Then we stopped talking to each other.
We reconnected about 6mth ago and I started initiating catchup with him. He also sometimes ask me out. All these outings have been friendly and towards the last few outings I may have picked up hints/gestures that he like me more than a friend.
For some reasons I just found out he has kids (divorced) and shocked me to the core. He answered my question but never offers more information than what I asked. And I’m the one who initiated to have a hard conversation so I can know more about why he never told me about his divorce and kids.
During his brief sharing, he admitted he was a bit interested in me. But his reason of not telling me was that he hasn’t really been interested in me. However, we’ve been going out almost 2x a month the past 6mth - we talked about friends building family, (objectively) on child bearing/family planning. Even as friends, I don’t think having kids as a fact should be concealed.
I told him I was really surprised and sad because we spent all these time tgt and he never thought of telling me. After all these, he didn’t even think he should say sorry. Left me disappointed and heartbroken when I think about this.
What are your thoughts about this?
Fair to not reveal such critical info when one is not interested in the other party/only see him or her as friend?
Do you think it’s pretty evil to purposely omit this information throughout the 2yr?
Hi. It's been 2 years and I'm returning back to the dating scene. My friends at poly have told me not to use tinder as many use that for one night stands and for fun.
Any platform which can help with my enquiry?