My boyfriend said I was being rude because I brought up his hygiene habits
I’ve been staying with my boyfriend and his family for the summer until we go back to college. Lately, I’ve noticed something that’s really been bothering me. I wake up early every morning for work, and when I come home around 12–2 p.m., he’s usually still in bed or sitting at his computer. Most days, he still hasn’t brushed his teeth, washed his face, or done anything hygiene related. He doesn’t have a summer job, so he’s usually just playing games with his cousin, watching TV, or staying in his room.
Yesterday, his family and I went to watch fireworks. We were outside in 95degree weather for hours, and when we got home, he still didn’t take a shower. I honestly thought that was kind of gross.
Then today, we ended up going to another fireworks show with my brothers. It was a last minute plan, but after being outside again, we got home and he still decided not to shower. That’s when I finally asked him about it.
I asked him what time did he gets ready today, and he said around 3 p.m., which honestly didn’t make much sense to me because he also told me he’s usually awake between 10 a.m. and 12 p.m. every day. To me, it seems like he spends hours awake before doing any basic hygiene, if he does it at all.
I told him that I didn’t understand why he waits so long to take care of himself and reminded him that he’s a grown man. He immediately called me rude for bringing it up.
The thing is, I’m a really clean person. Hygiene is important to me. I don’t enjoy trying to kiss my boyfriend at 5 p.m. when his breath smells like he still hasn’t brushed his teeth. I’m not trying to be mean or shame him,,,,,I just want him to take better care of himself. This isn’t just an occasional thing, it happens almost every day unless we have somewhere to be early in the morning. Every day I come home from work, he’s still in bed or on his computer and hasn’t done anything hygiene-wise. It’s becoming a real turnoff for me.