Roles in queer relationships? How to discuss?
A few months ago I started seeing someone, the first time we were intimate she was very dominant and didn't really let me touch her because she was on her period but then the second time we kind of both switched which is how I would like it to be, kind of like taking turns. But these last months I'm usually the one giving, and I enjoy it a lot because I'm very attracted to her...but when I do ask her to do something to me, she's inmediately rushing me to finish (not in a bad way, in a flirty way like "give it to me now" etc) BUT it's hard for me to enjoy it because I kind of feel like she's not enjoying giving...I do enjoy giving when we're together, I'm not doing it just for her to finish, I enjoy doing it...but it doesn't feel like she enjoys doing it to me. She's told me she has enjoyed being a "pillow princess" which she didn't use to be...I really don't understand the psychology behind that. How should I go about that? Just asking her to do things to me more often? Lately I don't even let her do anything because I get stressed or nervous about the idea of being rushed. I'm usually the one wearing the strap and today I asked her if she could use it on me, and I asked her to do some foreplay first but she said "You don't deserve it" (we're both kind of into the dominant/punishing thing) BUT I kept feeling like that was another sign of her just wanting to get it over with.