Players get mad when they can’t slur, am I overeeacting?
This happened maybe a few months ago and I never posted it becuase I thought maybe I was the one in the wrong here.
Basically I was attempting to run a campaign with a group of 5 to kinda just let my writers itch go wild.
I found a guy who said he had a whole group who wanted to play and usually got super in character.
The group seemed cool but there was one guy that was just super agressive, hyper and seemed to be the energy of the group.
They all said he’s always like that so it’s not an issue and he gets the most in character so it’s better if he joins.
Then he straight up F slurred.
I was stunned, it took me a second to respond.
(This is abbreviated I don’t have the original text so this may or may not be unkowingly twisted )
Me: “Uh, yeah let’s not say that.”
The party: “Oh no it’s all good he’s allowed to say that and says it all the time.”
Me: “Well I’m not particularly comfortable with slurring so could I ask we don’t slur in this campaign”
(I’m not lgbtq+ but I’m an ally and get slightly triggered when I hear it)
Party member: “honestly man if your not going to let us slur I think it’s kinda taking away our player agency and I want a dm who will give agency so i dont think it’ll work out.”
I was then kicked from the server.
Present day im playing that server with a group I enjoy very much
Was I overreacting and that wasn’t an actual issue?