u/Intrepid-Ad3618

I’m currently on the 40th version of my paper and I feel like I’m losing my mind.

At first, my advisor was obsessed with tiny details and word choices. Then we moved on to structural logic. Now, at version 30+, they suddenly decided the methodology is wrong and I need to add more experimental results. We haven't even submitted to a single journal yet.

I feel like we’re stuck in this useless loop and self-indulgent perfectionism. In my opinion, it’s a waste of time, cuz reviewers are going to have comments no matter what, so why try to make it perfect now?

And I’m now terrified to even type a sentence cuz I’m afraid of using the wrong word. How do I break this cycle and just get the damn thing submitted?

I’m currently doin my PhD at a top university. Before the confirmation, I thought my supervisor was good, he’s encouraging and careful to my writing.

But after I passed the confirmation exam, everything changed. He started pushing me, and somehow using language to bully me. For example, he focused on the details too much, interrupting me just cuz I used the improper words, and ridiculed my words. (English is my second language). He also says I’m not understanding of what I do to my other supervisor, enhance the stereotype of me. He does some micromanagements to us, checks whether we are in the office, tests us from messages during weekends…

He also interrupts another lab mate in front of many students in a group meeting with 10+ ppl, asks some questions that are very hard to answer, and has no helps in that occasion, to make my lab mate feel embarrassed in front of us… (he always uses the way of asking questions instead of directly pointing out the problem, which doesn’t help anything and makes us feel confused and embarrassed)

I don’t wanna complain him, and I know I can change nothing about him. But how can I communicate with him properly and effectively? How can I get along with him?