my husband had surgery yesterday and i got a slack message at 2pm asking where i was
he had surgery yesterday morning. minor surgery. removing a cyst from his back that the dermatologist said could have waited but he wanted gone. i drove him in at 7am, waited through the procedure, drove him home at 1pm. set him up on the couch with the dog and a glass of water.
at 2pm i opened my laptop to catch up. before i could even sign into slack a DM was waiting from my team lead. "hey, just checking in, you've been offline since 8am, everything okay?"
i had told the entire team about this in our standup tuesday. i had it on my calendar. i had set my slack status to "out for the day, surgery for spouse, back tomorrow." the calendar block was green and red.
he wasnt being mean. when i explained, he was apologetic. but he also said the new escalation policy requires him to check in with anyone offline more than four hours without a calendar entry visible to him specifically. he can't see my personal calendar items. only the shared work calendar.
i had done everything right. i still got the message.
my husband heard the chime through the wall and said "is that work?"
i said yes.
i am tired in a way i cannot describe.