Custody change
Hi all,
First I want to say I feel like I may be overreacting, but I may not be so please feel free to tell me which one.
I received a call from DH today, BM’s weekend, and he had SD4. He then tells me him and BM decided he will take her every weekend and she will have SD every Wednesday and Thursday.
Two things for reference: If you’ve seen my previous posts, DH and I decided to live apart for a while. And two- SD4 has had a lot of behavioral problems, often involving my own bio.
BM is a waitress so she works on weekends and she was sending SD to her parents house with her sister. A lot of the behavioral problems from SD4 are from her aunt (BM’s sister). I agree that it was a wise choice.
But like I told DH, even if we don’t live together, I consult him with all important decisions even if they don’t affect him or have anything to do with him. The least he could’ve done was tell me this change was happening.
Every. single. weekend. I don’t know how I’m going to handle that. plus the already established 50/50.
He says I’m upset because I don’t love her or have a connection and that’s why I’m not excited for this, as he is. His mentality is that the kids should come first and us, as individuals and a couple, come last.
I’ve been crying because I am so frustrated. My marriage is on the thinnest thread possible, and the weekends she was with her mom were ultimately the most 1 on 1 time we could get.
I want to divorce DH. Not only for not consulting with me but because I can’t be with someone that thinks adult relationships come last, that’s just not accurate.
But I can’t. My daughter is my everything, and I can’t fathom being away from her. I don’t believe she’s safe around her sister or DH’s family.
Maybe I’m being dramatic because the news just hit. Or maybe this is as much as my threshold can handle.
My whole life, my schedule, my goals, my hopes for my marriage feel like they’ve been sh*t on.