I (28M) am in a dilemma and don't know what to do.
Sorry for the long read.
So my family has introduced with this girl (25f) via arranged marriage. She is my father's best friends, friends daughter. My dad's friend is the middle person and he introduced them stating we will be a good match together.
She checks all the boxes about being a great wife and great person. She is more mature than me (in a way where I am very straightforward and speak my mind irrelevant of their age or anything but she knows how to handle situations diplomatically and she has even helped me in a few instances). She is conventionally good looking, is a dentist and doesn't mind moving to where I am (Australia).
Her attachment style is of an anxious person and she got attached to me from day 1, she started talking about our future, what we will do and all of that. I shit my pants and straight up ran because I was not ready for all that in the first week. Everyone convinced me to talk with her and explain and ask her to slow down. I did and she did put a lid on it but it does come up now and again.
The dilemma is she checks out all the boxes, I have no reason to say no to her BUT I don't feel the thrill or the feelings I have felt about the people I have dated in the past. I know she would be a great partner in the future but what do I do with the way I think? Is this normal? Will I get over this?
I am yet to meet her, will be flying out next month to see her and people told me my feelings might change after I meet her. It has been 5 months and I don't think anything has changed in this period.
Can somebody please shine some light on this with your personal experience. Thank you so much for the help in advance!