Found out BF had a massage with extra service
Problem/Goal: I found out my BF had a massage with extra service.
Context: Last week, nag-away kami ng BF ko. I'm also a man. Naturally, hindi kami nag-usap for 4 days. Today, while he was sleeping, I used his phone and checked his messages (yes, we are open to use each other's phones) and nakita ko sa trash yung deleted messages between him and the masseur setting a schedule. He specifically asked for a guy to do the massage. We've been together for 3 years now and I don't know how to process what I'm currently feeling. I keep asking myself kung cheating ba yun or what, I just don't know man.
Previous attempt: Already communicated this to him. He lied pa nga at first na he can't choose the person na mag massage until I showed him the text messages and that's when he admitted. Now, hindi ko na siya ni rereplyan. Still processing what I feel and still thinking of the most rational thing to do.