She said she "couldn't stand talking to me anymore" based on a lie. Now that she knows the truth, should I reach out or keep waiting?
I’ve been talking to this girl for about 5 months and we are friends btw. Everything was going great until a week ago when she suddenly turned on me. She said she "couldn't stand my talking to me anymore" and accused me of some really hurtful things (including insulting her family). I was shocked because I never did any of that.
It turns out, a mutual "friend" had fabricated fake screenshots and lies to ruin my reputation.
For the past 7 days, we haven’t spoken, though we are still sending "streaks" on TikTok. I found out from a mutual friend that she now knows the truth—she realized she was manipulated and that I am innocent. She even admitted to that friend that she feels terrible for "wronging someone who did nothing wrong."
However, she hasn't reached out to me yet. She’s the type of person who struggles to initiate or apologize. I’m feeling a strong urge to break the silence because I hate long conflicts and I actually care about her.
My dilemma: A part of me wants to be the bigger person and reach out now to clear the air, as we have a major holiday (Eid) coming up in 13 days. Another part of me feels like I should wait for her to apologize since she was the one who insulted me and believed the lies so easily.
Is it "mature" to reach out now and show her I'm not holding a grudge? Or will I look desperate and lose my self-respect if I don't let her come to me first?
Would love to hear some outside perspectives.