Nice vibes pre and post date and final ghosting 👻
The dating world has truly become weird. I honestly can keep a decent date and get rejected quite often lately while it never happened just a couple of years ago.. Seriously things are getting akward.
I had a match with an Italian guy (I live in Europe), and he was super nice, texting daily, even himself initiating many times the texts, having quick replies .. the vibe was good. I live out of the town, and he asked me to have dinner together, which I agreed and took my car to his town. He wanted to pay for everything (parking, dinner etc ) I said no. But he insisted in at least the dinner. Which I agreed.
The day comes and he was clearly excited, I was happy too. We meet and he hugs me, he takes me by surprise to a 5 star hotel restaurant (Michelin star!!!), and asks me to pick up the type of menu (all overpriced and I would have honestly picked up “a la carte”, but he insisted on menu). He also insisted in picking himself the wine (he chose a 250 euros wine which I never in my life would have chosen, basically because I can’t afford a wine this price lol).
The dinner is cool, we talk about ourselves, our lives, we laugh a lot, honestly he seemed happy with me. I was getting nice vibes and thinking maybe we will have a second date. Food , wine and service was excellent of course and I was feeling a little like in the movies… He paid for the restaurant bill, and we say goodbye nicely. He and I talked about we are not looking for hookups and we never have sex in first or second dates just wanted to clarify this, and he was respectful.
Here comes the first red flag: having driven the car after drinking some wine back to my place, and being at night most guys would at least text to say hey are you safe home ?.. or whatever.. well, he never said a goodnight text or anything, being cosntantly texting me all the previous days. Next day: cold silence. I texted him good morning and asked him how he was doing.. no answer. Days have passed..
Honestly, why would someone invite a woman to an extra expensive place, chose the most expensive menu and wine, make her feel super cool and then just not even have the decency and education (which he seemed to brag about) to say hey sorry I don’t feel like it or whatever and at least say goodbye? why people has lost education and morals to say “no” and prefer ghosting and cold silence , why is this being normalised??? WTF.