I (35M) have been briefly dating a woman (40s) and I recently found out she killed someone in her 20s and I need some advice. Does your past define you?
Ive been talking to this woman for 2 months. Ive got nothing but great vibes, fantastic chemistery, we laugh together alot and I really like her..wel tonight she dropped on me that she has a criminal histroy. Then she told me she killed someone. Like I made a joke about how she could tell me anything, even if she ran over a body. And she immediatly stopped me. She hide the body in the trunk claiming it was self defense because he was abusive. Shot him a number of times and cleaned the car, put him in the trunk, and She was convicted of first degree murder but a jury trial happened and she got manslaughter then early released from prison after spending 5 years locked up.
I know it sounds insane im considering it, but I have a criminal history of first degree burgalry which I got put on probabtion for and then it went off my record. So im empathetic to the fact that shit does in fact happen..but this is some serious shit..but she seems so emotionaly receptive and well spoken and kind..if shes telling the truth and her bf was abusive and raping her and things of this nature then does it change things? If she ran to the car to get the gun and then shot him and paniced, and hid the body in the trunk bwefore driving to someone she knews house and saying "i think i killed someone" apparently immediatly?
I have not had the best dating history so it makes me question if my senses are off here. I understand the weight of all of this and I want to remain safe. But at NO point has my spidey sense gone off, and ive had two instances of clear "im in danger" feelings that proved to be correct. Our dates have gone great and I dig so much about her. But just learning this has me a bit shaken. Any advice/input would be fantastic.