Was I an AH for having asked my old roommate cousin to double check for missing keys?
My (31F) roommate (32F), who is my cousin's cousin (we are Latin so she's my cousin too 🤪), moved out yesterday. As she was giving me her keys, she noticed she had an extra key on her keychain and she was confused if it was for my apartment. She checked and she did have 2 keys for my apartment. When she first moved in, I had made 4 copies of my keys. The original keys (I got 2) were both silver and all my copies were gold. I had given her one gold key when she moved in, which she lost within the first week. I gave her another one and she decided to make more copies even though I told her I had plenty - all her copies were gold. She also mentioned that she may have given one to her boyfriend when he visited from PR, but she wasn't sure. This was yesterday.
This morning, when I was going through all the keys, I realized I was missing one of the original silver keys. So I texted her to see if she can just check to see if she happened to have them too. I also was inquiring to see if she could ask her boyfriend if he recalled if the copy he used was silver or gold. See the screenshots for more.
I am not sure if I came in strong and that led to her defensiveness? I was a little taken back and since work has been crazy, I decided to wait to respond. Especially after I connect with my therapist tonight. After 6 hours, she messaged me again saying she asked her boyfriend and he didn't find them. Since there's a chance I see this person maybe once a year, I definitely don't want to leave on bad terms, but I'm really at a loss for words on how to respond.