My Homebirth ❤️
I was having contractions on and off a week before my boy was born. it was very confusing and draining. He is my third baby so I thought I would know what to expect this time.
One of the falses alarm I said to my husband in the morning I think it will be today. Then all stop and nothing new. I decided to ignore any signs from now on until I couldn’t ignore anymore.
Monday morning I was having endless braxton hicks while moving around. Not painful but very uncomfortable.
Midwife came to check on me that afternoon and suggested a membrane sweep to see if it would help things moving. She said cervix was high and did what she could. I honestly felt a bit hopeless because after all the pains I thought I would be dilated.
It took me long to sleep that evening and I was online searching about the success on membrane sweep and it didn’t have me much hope so I just went to bed. Not long after I started to wake up with a very painful cramp pain like. It was different from my other births. Not that contraction that comes from back to front of belly. Mostly that lower pain. I think it started around 1 or 2 am. By 3 am they were very sore and I started to doubt myself. I had thoughts on going to the hospital and gettting an epidural ( mind you I’m terrified of needles and had two hospital births with no epidural previously and that never crossed my mind). I had to fight against my mind and keep saying to myself I can do this. It was intense. I got some hot water bottle for my back hoping to easy the pain but it didn’t much.
I was breathing through them and even closing my fingers against my hand until my nails would distract me a bit from the pain. I honestly hoped things would stop that morning. My toddler was sleeping in her cot beside me so I was quiet moving around and changing positions.
When my girl woke up I called my husband to get her and said I was having a hard pain. He asked about phoning the midwife already and I wasn’t sure. He did phone her as he saw how I had to concentrate during the pain and that’s what she said would be a sign. She asked me if I thought it was time I said I didn’t know. She said she would get ready and come up to see me. I stayed in bedroom moving around while husband gave the kids their breakfast. I decided to go get some food myself because I had none all night and in my head labour could last hours still. I couldn’t sit down so I was having my cereal while standing and felt a gush, blood, followed by my waters.
Husband phone the midwife to inform my waters had broken and she said she was about 10 minutes away.
At this point I would moan during contractions and husband was asking me questions during them so I shouted at him to stop talking. He asked if I wanted to go back to the bedroom and I decided to go. Walked down there, he had already covered our bed but I just stood beside.
Midwife arrived. She asked me a few questions and I can’t remember much now but I said this is hard. She asked when I had a pee last and suggested to go try as it could help to have an empty bladder. I went to the bathroom but barely sit down had to stand for another contraction, and got the familiar feeling of pushing. I said to her I felt pushing. I walked back to the bedroom and had another contraction. She said I could stay where I was but I decided to go in the bed on all fours. Contractions kept coming. Felt head coming a bit and back. Then again. Then it started to come. As I was roaring and she would remind me to breath through the second midwife phone asking about the location. I remember half of me feeling annoyed hearing the midwife on the phone while I was pushing baby out 🤣 the next head came out and the ring of fire wasn't as bad as my two others.
Midwife called my husband to see the head out. My husband was planning in dressing the two kids and bringing them out for a drive. Well… things were so fast that he came with our 21 month old in his arms, so he saw the baby coming out fast after the head.
I had such an chocked expressing and picked my boy from the bed and hugged him and couldn't believe we did it and he was here. Right in my house, on my bed, my husband was there. Second midwife phones parking about the house as she was close and the midwife said no rush baby is here already.
Husband called our 4 year old to come see the baby soon after and he also asked about the cord and was so happy to see his little tiny brother here.
The best experience ever!
The way I dreamed even though labour was more intense than my other two. It was also faster.
I had breakfast in bed. Had my family around. And my mom just arrived from my home country to the surprise of the baby being just a few hours old.