Livid over having to do the work my SO committed to but, realistically, can't do on her own. I caved.
Money is running out and SO hasn't worked for most of the 20 years we've been together. She commits to side jobs she can't realistically do on her own not just to the inability to rationally assess the scope due to manic flurries but also because she has a shit ton of medical/physical limitations. She committed to a job of painting over 500ft of fence that's in rough shape in 90 degree weather because of the money situation and wants to 'help' (and feel accomplished) but did so without any input from me. I was determined to not participate - standing my ground because she went behind my back and lied about up front payment she received- stating it was a "loan" not a down payment for anything. The day of, I caved because she had a recent ER visit (she almost died), because I know she won't do any of the prep work - just wants to GO GO GO and paint, because I know how physically screwed up she's going to be without help and because the job needs to be done right for the cost of supplies and time. I've set a boundary that I won't allow her to wrangle me into these things anymore and I failed. I wish she would make an equal effort, any effort, to get a work from home job because this is not sustainable and I'm busting my ass on my only days off (again) while trying to also manage a micro business I just started and working almost full time.