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Am I wrong, My kid's mother often tells me that I don’t communicate and that I’m always quiet when she discusses our kids or what’s happening in her house. Most of the time, she’s the main cause of the issues.

For instance, I’ve stopped speaking up because she can say whatever she likes, and it’s accepted as truth. If I disagree or present a different perspective, she claims I’m lying or that it never happened. A few months ago, when her brother and his wife were staying at her place, I mentioned something he did. Her response was, “I know, this is my house, and nobody can tell me what goes on in it.” I simply replied, “Okay.”

Now, our oldest son has his girlfriend staying there, someone she doesn’t like. She constantly calls to complain about the situation. When she mentioned that the girl said my son was cheating, I stayed quiet. When I suggested I’d talk to him about it, she responded, “How can you talk to him about cheating when you were a cheater too? You did this and that.”

This is just a small example, but it highlights a larger issue: every conversation has to go her way. You can’t disagree with her or say she’s wrong. You can’t say something didn’t happen; the only options are to stay quiet, which she says is wrong, or to agree with everything she says. No matter what I say, it feels like it’s always met with disagreement. Am I wrong for wanting to just stay quiet?