I have been seeing this girl since end of November. We’ve had ups and downs since then, a lot of them regarding communication mainly, but I thought things had gotten better. We had a lot of physical chemistry early on and we still do.
Anyway, we saw each other about 1-2 times per week for the first couple months and lately has been around 3 days per week. We usually spend at least one night per week sleeping over at one of each other’s places. She lives about 30 minutes / 20 miles away and we both have full time jobs, so seeing each other every single day doesn’t work for me. My job is super demanding especially at the moment also. It is hard to manage it all.
We text every day usually throughout the day. Exchange affection and I love yous throughout the day. Talk/facetime sometimes. I cook for her when she visits, take her out on dinner dates or get takeout and we eat together. Sometimes we just go on walks/hikes together and talk and just watch shows together and hold each other. When we are together we enjoy each others company. I always pay for everything, though I’m not complaining about that, just showing I am putting in effort and not asking her to pay.
She has mentioned she wants to move in with her next partner in less than a year. She has berated me for not progressing the relationship faster. She just came out of a 5 year marriage that she ended when she met me (she was still separated and not even officially divorced yet). I think she is looking for a rebound as she was unhappy in her marriage.
But nothing I do seems good enough. Just the day before (this past Monday) she texted me out of the blue “Just wanted to say I am so grateful to have you in my life. I love you so much” in which I responded the same. Then the next day (yesterday) she was cold with texting, says I don’t make enough effort, don’t plan for the future, etc. etc. It’s like she is bipolar or something.
I’m a super simple guy and spent a lot of my adult life alone. I’ve had a lot of good experiences with her and enjoyed the time we spent together but I feel like enough is enough and enough and I’d be way more at peace going back to my old simple single life.
Edit: I should also mention that she said yesterday she had a dream about me that I cheated on her. And then she got REALLY mad at me about it.