u/JJJ183

So I’m in my last year of college and right now I’m taking my upper division classes (300-400). I double major in biology and science with a pre-dental track. I meet my bf this year in October and we started dating in November. This year has been the worst I have done academically and idk if it’s because of me or because I’ve gotten into a relationship. He’s my first bf after not dating since my freshman year of high school but I usually can tell when I’m burnout from school but this time I’m unsure? I thankfully passed all my classes but I’m not happy with my grades, especially since I want to apply to dental school next cycle. My gpa is 3.47 but my biology gpa is 2.9… not good at all… I got one C fall term and 2 C’s last term. All science course. I usually take around 5-6 classes but this whole year I’ve been taking 6 with higher demanding classes ( human anatomy + lab, physics + lab, mircobio, and a 400 level class) midterms was just 2 weeks ago and I didn’t do the best. Whenever I’m with my bf I just don’t want to study and we have had a talk about this before and he said he will help me be motivated and what not but it’s honestly not working. If anything I need to be AWAY from him to actually study, if anything he tells me, I motivate him to study but it’s just like idk. I feel like he will never really understand the amount of studying I have to do especially because it takes me a bit longer to grasp these concepts. Another thing is all my classes start at 9am all weeks, with his earliest class being at 11am twice a week and we both live on campus so we spend the night together but whenever we do I find it so much harder to get up because of how tired I am from staying up (mainly because of him- that’s a while different story) but idk I feel like now that I’m dating someone, I have to keep in mind that I’m ACTUALLY in a relationship none and I can’t just go ghost mode and focus on my studies. ALSO he wants to go out on dates and as much as I want to I want to have to the time to study and when not I just want to bed rot because of how fried my brain is. Especially now that this summer after I graduate I’m going to be study the DAT like a full time job, shadow, volunteer, and hopefully work. I won’t have time to go out or won’t be able to for long and he isn’t originally from here so when he moved to campus he didn’t bring his car so it would be much harder to do anything together. Idk I just feel bad and feel like it’s just too much right now. Any advice?

So my bf and I meet in October at our school library and just a month later, we started dating in November. It’s been almost 6 months now so not too long but getting there. Anyways I have some thoughts of possibly ending things with him??

Basically I've been a little frustrated with my boyfriend lately. He has ADHD which explains a lot (still not an excuse), but it still gets to me sometimes. Plans always run late, he says he's gonna do things and doesn't follow through, and I end up waiting around and adjusting everything for him. The big example is this whole pizza night where he offered to pay through Apple Pay but I said let's just wait and eat together, and then I ended up waiting until 1am, walking to get it myself, got half pepperoni even though I don't eat meat just so he could have what he likes, and at the end of it all he just goes "thanks for buying the pizza.". He also does this "I was going to..." thing a lot where the intention never becomes action, and with gifts he means well but it's not always thoughtful… like he got me a Lego set knowing I'm busy with school, then kept going back and forth about taking it back AND HE DID. I did talk to him about it and he apologized, and I know his living situation doesn't help since his roommates are loud, have people over, and don't clean so he can't really sleep or cook there. I get all that. But I also know I'm part of the problem because I keep saying "it's ok" when it's not, so I'm working on holding my own boundaries too. But I’ve talked about wanting to sleep early and not eat to late since last term (January) and especially for this term because I have 9 am classes everyday. It hasn’t been fixed and also idk there is just so much where it’s just frustrating. Especially his situation with his roommates. He’s has opportunities to switch out of his unit but doesn’t because the other units he saw weren’t any better and because he’s roommates make the place feel “alive” (he basically wants to socialize with his roommates) but it’s like is it really worth it when he goes through all of that and is always complaining… idk what to do and I just feel like I’m slowly losing interest in him because of this (everything in general)