u/JJQuantum

Time for Apex to follow suit.

So I’ve been with my wife for 28 years, married for 21. She has always thought of me in a certain way. I was the quintessential “bad boy” when we met and she was attracted to that. After we started dating I stopped pretty much all of the dangerous/illegal things I used to do because I wanted to build a life with her and we have succeeded in doing that. Since then she has very seriously referred to me as Batman. I’ve confirmed with her on multiple occasions that she doesn’t say that as a joke, that she actually sees me that way. I never knew what I wanted out of my life until she did refer to me that way, and then realized being a hero to my wife and sons was really what I wanted to be and have tried on a daily basis to live up to that. Note that it’s not all that she loves about me but it’s not a small part.

So now here I am turning 57 years old next month. I’m maybe 98% of what I used to be in my 30’s and 40’s, physically and mentally. I know over the next 10-15 years I will continue to change and at some point Batman is simply too old to be a hero. He just doesn’t have the ability anymore. When that happens, what will I be to my wife? Will she stay with me simply out of habit, responsibility, because she feels sorry for me, something else? I’d hate that honestly.

Yes, I plan to talk with her but I like to get my thoughts together before having conversations and this post is to help me do that. I also know not all women feel the same way. Just looking for varying opinions from women as to what kind of relationship you have with your man/how you feel about him once he’s no longer the guy you fell in love with.