For context I’m Catholic and he isn’t. I only recently returned to the church after being lapsed during our whole marriage.
Feeling so low. Anytime my husband is stressed he says he needs sex to wind down and go to sleep. If I don’t have sex with him, he will go masturbate. I have a lot of chronic health issues that make my libido non-existent, but I am working on that. At this point I feel like I’m just a human sex toy because if I reject him (I try not to skip more than 2 days) he will take it upon himself instead of waiting till the next night for me.
I’ve been working on being a better wife in terms of my obligations to uphold the marital act. In the past, I was bad about this. I have repented since returning to Catholicism and have made it a point not to turn down sex for no reason and if I have a valid reason not to let it go past 2 days.
BUT… This week has been very stressful for both of us. I have had numerous intense medical appointments. Therefore making it a 3 day skip of sex for the first time since march and he was livid last night. 😒 anyone been through this??
Edit because the cross post I did that got rejected was now approved 🫣: I guess the question is, is it absurd to want him to abstain from masturbating knowing he gets to have sex with me the next day or 2 so that I don’t feel like a human sex toy? Is it wrong that I feel like that? Because if I can’t/wont have sex he will masturbate no matter what. Therefore I feel like an option among other choices. Even thought I’m “top choice” I feel disrespected not being the only choice when sex is happening frequently and regularly and in fact the most that’s ever occurred.