Avoidant divorce, or the makings of it
You can imagine the story. The last few months, things have been a bit "cold". We had some disagreements, and every time I brougt up and vocalized something that bothered me, I didn't get much of a response. I only felt coldness and distance.
She went to a therapist. Every once and then, there was a glimpse of self reflection, self admittance, and admittance of "not pulling the weight". I thought things are on the right track, this is going to change. Altough I saw the reality, I tried my best...
Last Monday, I was on a business trip, and returned to a half-empty flat. Managed to get a call full of emotions. She said that she is scared, and needs to be alone, and that she will figure out what to do with the paperwork.
That's it, everything we build up for gone. Little to no contact from her side, I try to write and call to at least get a decent ending to it. She agrees to figure it out and get some closure, yet nothing else comes afterwards. We agreed to a "pause", yet she moved to a new flat and is going to get the last of them on Sunday.
I know this really isn't a pause, I'm not naive. I am having a lot of trouble processing all of this. The weight, the silence, the mixed signals...at least there is some sort of communication, but it's not exactly moving things forward.
Any thought, inputs? Should I just call it quits?
Our first wedding anniversary is in a week.