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My girlfriend and I are both in our mid-20s. I’m male, she’s female, and we’ve been together for about five years. We used to live together for a while, but lately things have been rough between us. There have been some arguments, and our apartment was also too small, so I recently moved back in with my parents.

Right now, my girlfriend is on vacation with a close female friend. She has been texting me a few times a day, and overall that has been fine.

The issue is that I have a very important and stressful doctor’s appointment tomorrow. It’s a big appointment for me, and I told her already around midday that I would really like to talk on the phone at some point today.

Throughout the day, she said she didn’t have time. Later she was out at a bar. When she got back, she said she was going straight to sleep. I told her that it was really important to me to talk, even if it was just for one minute. She still refused and said her friend was next to her and tired.

Instead of calling, she started bringing up things I had supposedly messed up recently, which felt like she was trying to shift the topic away from the fact that I needed support. I kept saying that I didn’t need a long conversation, just a short call because I was anxious and hurt.

She still didn’t call. Eventually I told her that I was deeply hurt and that I didn’t want to talk tomorrow either. Only after that did she start spamming me with calls.

Now I feel conflicted. On one hand, she is on vacation and I understand that she has her own plans and her friend is there. On the other hand, we’ve been together for five years, and I feel like making one minute of time before something important should not be too much to ask.

AITA for being hurt and not wanting to talk after she refused to call me?