This post is not about wanting to find love or a partner. This is about everything ELSE.
I'm a medical student, currently in a career change after already having got an engineering degree. I also worked in a niche part of financial services that allowed me to be decently financially successful, enough that the few years of work I did are enough to fund my medical degree until I graduate. I play the drums and guitar, sing at open mics, cook really well (according to friends), and bake brownies.
My financial success is not lacking, my academic successs is not lacking, my hobbies are not lacking, my social life is not lacking.
Yet I keep finding myself wanting a romantic relationship. I can talk about why I've given up on this on a Friday, but I'm struggling with trying to enjoy a life where I don't need it.
I was trying to understand Dr. K's video on decathexis, and I thought that might be the answer - but I've already got other things in which to put that cathetic energy (see above).
Is it impossible to change your wants? If I wall off or compartmentalize my libido, how do I prevent it from coming out in pathalogical ways? Are there healthier ways for me to intentionally direct it, or hopefully silence it?
Is libido / horniness an emotion?