Hi, I am a 28F and have just confirmed last night (thanks to this reddit) that I am a demisexual.
I have been trying to confirm since I happened to see a post about demi (had never heard of it till then) and it matches me so perfectly I had to investigate. I'm still trying to absorb this new information, but I would be remissed if I tried to deny it when it's been spelled out for me so clearly.
This confirmation reminded me of another question I have had for a while. Could I be Bi? Now, the reason I'm questioning this is because I have purposely taken the time to try and imagine life with a woman instead of a man to try to see what my feelings would be. And I didn’t hate the idea at all.
Infact, most feelings I have towards men and women are completely dependant on the individual. And I'm aesthetically attracted to feminine men, masculine men, feminine women, and masculine women (I lean toward masculine).
But I don't think this automatically makes me Bi? I don't have enough data...cause apparently I'm a demi. 😂
I've never felt romantically towards another female, but I've only ever dated 2 people, both guys. One I never felt anything towards, actually kinda the opposite (it was pretty much dating in name only). And the other was a 2 year relationship that I actually started feeling sexually attracted to him, but then found out he was a liar and all attraction immediately dissappeared before we ever did anything. Been single since then.
So what I'm wondering is how do I figure out if I'm Bi without actually dating, or if I call myself questioning until I someday happen to like a girl? Or do I just say I'm straight until proven otherwise?
I was raised conservative cult-christian (and escaped) so I have very little knowledge of these things and no one to talk to about it. My mom would be supportive, but she escaped with me out of the same situation, so I doubt she'd know either. I'm also extremely introverted, even online, so that makes things even more difficult I think.
I just want to be honest to myself, so I didn’t want to just say I'm straight and call it a day while choosing to be ignorant.
I appreciate any kind advice, and thanks for taking the time to read this. ❤️