If you're gonna be slop atleast be blatant about it these people will just casually put the LGBTQ flag and stuff in thumbnails that have negative connotations when LGBTQ has nothing to do with the video.
I HATE how among gay/bi guys it's generally accepted that men are just easier to get. Even as a transfem I feel like I'm just seen as a femboy to them deep down regardless if they accept my identity because they still socialize and date the same way they did when I was a guy.
I don't know how to explain it but I feel like if they really saw me as a girl they wouldn't lack the subtly that they would have with a cis girl. Like testing the waters and slowly going through the bases. Instead they all just want to speedrun straight to sex or whatever. Or they're just really blunt and openly perverted. They just lack that caution that they otherwise would with a cis girl.
It really makes me feel dysphoric and less valued than a cis women. I want to be TREATED like a women including the politeness. Stop treating me like I'm easy! Be anxious!! Affirm me! Overthink until we get to be comfortable with each other! Ugh! I'm tired of being treated like I'm low stakes.
I have an ex (Who I'm on good terms with) who is bi and is asking me about what he should say to this cis girl he's interested in overthinking her responses and such. WHERE WAS THAT FOR ME?! I KNOW HETERO DATING NORMS ARE TOXIC BUT THEYRE AFFIRMING AAAAAA