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u/JackalJames

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Queer/Trans Massage place?

I usually just go to new happy day for massages, they do great work and the price is right. But I recently had bottom surgery and it’s too early in my recovery to lie on my stomach and squish my new. Friend. Lol. So I’m hoping for an English speaking queer/trans run massage place or something so I can effectively communicate my very unusual situation and see if there’s a way to set up the tables to accommodate me so I can still get a massage. My back and neck are killing me after a month of only being allowed to lay on my back, I’m a stomach sleeper normally.

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u/JackalJames — 12 hours ago
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A little early measuring

I’m 5 weeks post op and my dick has gotten significantly more squishy over the past week, I think there’s been a big drop in swelling. There’s obviously still more swelling, but I think that’s affecting girth more than length at this point.

I’m very very pleased at having gotten the exact size I wanted of 4.25”, I don’t have very elastic skin so if I experience any size gains I expect (and hope) they are minimal and that I don’t get longer than 4.75”. This is the perfect size for me and I can’t imagine trying to wrangle a snake much bigger than this. My girth currently is sitting at 5” measured in the middle, so once all the swelling is gone I expect will be closer to 4.5-4.75” around, which is also in the range I wanted!

u/JackalJames — 1 day ago
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4.5 weeks update

Just put aquaphor on post shower so arm is extra shiny lol

Had my last post op yesterday! Catheter got pulled and I’m pissing! It was frustrating this morning because at the end of my pee when it’s no longer a strong straight stream I got piss on my boxers, and then post piss dribbles got piss on my shorts, and then when I went poop shortly after peeing more piss suddenly shot out and got piss on my new shorts and the floor. :| all while my cat wouldn’t stop crying at me to be let out of the room.

At my post op Dr Watt also confirmed that the hairs on my split thickness graft are real and alive! I’m gonna have arm hair! Not as much as before but I feel like that will be nice to have. I also can stop propping, I can lay on my side again THANK GODS, the back pain was really getting to me, and I can stop bandaging my arm. I’m waiting on the last couple of spots to fully close and then I can use my silipos sleeve.

My thigh is still healing, I have lots of small scabby spots that itch like crazy and im struggling to let heal

I also showered fully independently today! Huge for me!

Overall I’m feeling really good, I have the wound separation and spot of necrosis at the base/underside of my dick but it seems to have reached its peak of how bad it was gonna get and is very clearly on the road to recovery. Hopefully it doesn’t take forever, but it’s pretty minor all things considered and is already looking way better than a few days ago. Aquaphor and medihoney plus more frequent gauze changes have quickly made a difference.

u/JackalJames — 6 days ago
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4 weeks post op update

ETA: I have just been reminded I consumed a large beet for dinner and that turns piss pink lol

I’m just soooo ready to get this catheter out. At 3 weeks exactly I started having actual painful and truly unpleasant bladder spasms. Now today at exactly 4 weeks I’m having bloody urine, not a lot, just enough to tinge my pee a pinkish color. I can tell my body is reaching its limit with the catheter, thankfully voiding trials start Wednesday and with any luck Dr Chen will pull the cath this Thursday.

Other than that I’ve had a small shallow spot of necrosis at the base of my penis, it’s been healing slowly but surely. Dr Chen thinks it’s shallow enough that it shouldn’t affect the urethra 🤞🏼. My vaginectomy has been pretty easy, I haven’t noticed much drainage this whole time and it doesn’t seem to have had any issues healing closed? The very bottom part occasionally has a spot of blood after a bowel movement and has been a bit itchy, but I can’t really see there, especially with my hair growing back. It’s very densely packed and dark so it really gets in the way of my vision, I think it’s contributing to the itchiness too.

My arm is healing fine, but my leash scar is having trouble finishing closing in my elbow crease, I still have a small open spot. The skin graft keeps bleeding when I take the gauze off to wash and apply aquaphor as directed, idk what to do it feels like I’m just reopening spots trying to heal because the gauze sticks to them. It’s mostly healed though, just the seam line of the two pieces of graft and a couple spots on the outline are being problematic.

I think I might be experiencing some post op depression, it took a while to realize because I don’t experience depression the way it usually gets talked about. I’ve been so devoid of thought and bored and feel boring, I don’t really want to do anything and most things I do want to do I lose interest in easily. I get frustrated and feel overly emotional about small things and I can feel myself expecting a degree of mind reading of what I need. I’m just not my best self. I’m tired of being dependent. I also don’t live with my partner, so him being my caretaker primarily means we have been together so much more than usual for over a month. It’s just all a lot. I’ve been a hermit, not reaching out to anyone really except for the occasional text or two, just not feeling social.

Big sigh. It’s worth it, and truly I know how easy my recovery has been overall, but even at its easiest this recovery takes its toll. I can’t wait to be done so I can actually enjoy having a penis.

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u/JackalJames — 10 days ago