u/JacketSad8484

Title really says it all but I’ll elaborate with more details here. I (29m) recently started hooking up/dating a new woman (28f) a few months ago. We’ve had sex every time we’ve hung out (5/6 times I can’t remember), usually a couple rounds a night & a couple rounds in the morning. We’re both coming out of 1.5+ year dry spells and somewhat “shaking off the rust” of having sex, but I feel like the sex has been pretty good otherwise so far. Problem is, she can’t seem to get to the point of orgasming with me. She’s never been in a relationship before and has mentioned off-hand that she can orgasm/squirt with a partner, but as far as I can tell, that’s eluded our entanglements to this point. She also mentioned early on that needs to get comfortable with a guy before she can get to that point. So maybe I’m just chasing my own tail here and shouldn’t worry about it. I genuinely enjoy all the aspects of foreplay (fingering, manual stimulation, oral, exploring/tracing/kissing her body before any of those other things), but she always seems to stop them to start PIV sex before climax. I can tell I’ve gotten her close a couple times (both with oral/fingering and PIV) but I don’t think she’s ever gotten over the hump. I’ve subtly hinted at bringing her vibrator into the mix a couple times and encouraged her to give feedback during/after sex, but to no avail so far. I’m trying to just let it go and enjoy a less orgasm-centric view of our sex but I want to make sure she’s getting what she wants/needs out of it too. Should I approach the topic with her directly or just chalk it up to a temporary mental block and try to allow her to work it out on her own? Appreciate any suggestions.