Mine would be loved ones pretending to forget my birthday only to surprise me with a party. Yes, get me really sad and in my head before surprising me with intensive social interaction. That will go great.
I’m (32f) am a bartender. My job has multiple locations. My regular location is closed to remodel, so I’ve taken more shifts at another location. There’s a regular there that I find attractive, and we’ve had some really great conversations. There really seemed to be a vibe and we have a lot in common.
Friday I stayed late after my shift and we had a great convo. I slipped him a note with my number. I know he’s saw and read it. We talked more at the bar, then I left.
It’s been crickets.
I’m so bummed. I know he’s single and has dated women previously. I really thought it was mutual.
Rationally, I know not all people are a match. It’s not personal. Keep hope. Blahhh
Emotionally, I feel really sad and just defeated. It’s so rare that I feel a connection, but it’s never mutual. I honestly don’t even want to try anymore. I’ve been single my entire adult life. All I want is a relationship but it’s the one thing I can never seem to get.
I just want to curl up in bed and cry.
*edited some grammatical errors
*also going to add what the note said/more context. I wrote a note because there are a lot of regulars, everyone knows each other, and they talk. So I figured a note would be a nonchalant way to approach without making it a thing. He really likes cars and f1 so I write “We auto hangout” with my number and a car doodle. I meant for it to be chill and low pressure as I didn’t want him to feel weird. My bar will be reopening soon, I wasn’t scheduled to work this week, and I’m not sure when my next shift will be so I thought that this would be an ideal time to let him know my interest