u/JadeRae_x

Sorry if this isn’t the correct place to post.

I live in a houseshare with one other girl, I don’t know her and havent lived with her long. We work opposite shifts and she’s very introverted, so I sometimes won’t see her for weeks. I only have her mobile for emergencies no social media. When i have seen her, she’s nice and polite but gets quickly uncomfortable with small talk and will excuse herself.

Sunday night I was in our house and her sister ( who I’ve only seen once from afar) rushed into our house shouting. Once I realised who she was I followed her and we found my housemate in a bad state. She went to hospital immediately and I got her sisters number for updates. This whole situation was traumatising I couldn’t stay at our house so I went to be with my family. I had to call in sick to work as I was really shaken. I messaged her sister asking how she was and if they needed anything a few times over the past few days but no response.

Yesterday morning I finally got a message from her sister saying she’s fine and will be home soon, so I drove back home to let her in. I was expecting to see her sister with her but she was alone. I spoke with her and offered any support and asked if anyone would be coming over to look after her. She said she’s fine now and doesn’t need support, she declined mental health support at the hospital, plus she has no family apart from her sister who lives 40 mins away. I then tried to get hold of her sister but no response all day until the evening, where she messaged and said she’s fine now and not to worry. I asked for anyone else I can contact if I need too as I know she doesn’t live close, I told her I can’t look after her as I’m never home, I asked her what I can do to help. I’ve sent multiple messages since but no response.

I know it’s not my place to push for answers but I’m terrified of being in my house and finding her again. I can’t get the image of her out of my head, it was traumatising. After I realised she was back home alone i had a panic attack. I also had a panic attack when she went for a nap and she didn’t answer when I knocked on her door to check on her. The fact she declined all support offered and she has no one to help her is really worrying for me. I really don’t know what to do as I don’t know her or her situation. I can’t keep an eye on her as I’m rarely home the same time. The only contact I have for her doesn’t answer. I tried searching social media but I couldn’t find either of them or any family with their name. I don’t know where either of them work.

My family and friends are advising that I start looking to move out as this is making me ill. But I feel awful just leaving her even though I cant do anything to help.

Does anyone know any services I can speak too that would be able to help me or give advice on my situation?

Do I call citizens advice or the local crisis team? I wouldn’t even know what to say to them but I’m so worried about her and I’m so scared this is going to happen again.

Do I need to speak to my landlord? I dont want to upset her or bypass her mental health rights if I speak to the wrong person.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated please.